How much sex is too much?
The answers to sexual questions are just a diverse as the couples who ask them. There is no one right or wrong answer to the question of how much sex is too much sex. There are only helpful guidelines that may help you as you make the best decision you can for your situation. Below are some questions that address common concerns when one is questioning what frequency of sex is right for them. Ask yourself these questions and discuss your answers with your partner.
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- How does sex affect your health?
- Sex can be very good for your health. In fact, it is said that people need to have, food/water, shelter, and sex to survive. A healthy relationship can actually help you live a longer and happier life. Generally we know that sex is a positive thing. It is the personal situations that we face that determine how much sex is healthy for us.
- For men, too much sex can result in skin irritation and burning on the genitals. Many men also face erectile dysfunction issues.
- Women must be able to be well lubricated in order to enjoy a sexual experience. Changes in health such as pregnancy or menopause can affect a woman's ability to produce the chemical response needed to prepare for intercourse.
- If you have a medical condition that makes it difficult for you to breath or otherwise function when you are participating in physical activities, it is best that you consult your doctor to find out how much sexual activity is healthy for you.
- Are you having an emotional experience?
- Sex is also an emotional experience. Especially in the case of a woman, unless there are feelings of desire and arousal present, the experience will not be as enjoyable as it could be otherwise. Sex may be too much when the responses are no longer mutual.
- Men are typically less concerned with the emotional aspect of sex. However, he must be able to show sensitivity to his female counterpart if she they are both to have a satisfying sexual experience.
- For women, outside distractions such as a crying baby, having had a stressful day, or feelings of self consciousness can affect her ability to prepare for and enjoy sex. If a woman feels pressured or manipulated into having sex, than that one time may be too much sex for her.
- Healthy relationships cannot exist if there is not concern and sensitivity between both people in a relationship. You need to be able to communicate not only how much sex is too much for you, but to be able to be sensitive to your partner's feelings as well.
- Would a break help you have better sex?
- Sometimes relationships get to the point where any sex at all is too much. Sometimes the best option is to not have any sex at all for a little while. How long you wait is a personal decision, but taking a break is likely to heighten your desire and make your next sexual experience that much more enjoyable. The phrase "good things come to those who wait," seems particularly applicable in this case.
- If you or your partner are feeling like you have already reached your limit, make sure to either discuss or make it clear in a non-offensive manner. It only magnifies the problem to be unclear with the other person why it is you want to avoid sex for a while.
There are probably many more questions that couples could ask in an attempt to find the magical equation for the perfect amount of sex. Unfortunately, relationships are too complicated and varied to have one answer that fits all. Part of being in a relationship is to discuss the concerns that you have and to decide together what works best.
