Attracting friends and building stronger relationships
Human beings are social creatures by nature. Some of us may not feel this way, but one way or another we get the attention we need from other humans. Finding ways to attract friends and build relationships can be hard, especially if you were raised in a difficult environment. We all have an innate nature to fit in and be accepted.
Individuals that suffer from low self-esteem often struggle with this because they don't know how to talk to other people. They can't seem to find a way to just be part of the group and have others like them. Having low self-esteem is a relationship killer. People don't want to be around people they need to build-up all the time. If you sit around and feel sorry for yourself and convince yourself that there is nothing likable about you, you will struggle making friends.
To build stronger relationships with others, you need to learn how to accept yourself for who you are and learn how to love yourself. Make a list of all the good qualities you have and the things you have been able to accomplish in life. Focus on only the positive things and do not let negative thoughts cloud your mind.
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Each day remind yourself of some of the things you have been able to accomplish. Use this to build-up your self-esteem. While it can be hard once you get out in the real world, keep moving forward thinking about yourself and don't listen to what other people are saying. Stop looking at others and assuming you know what they are thinking. Quite often people that have low self-esteem will put up a wall because they are afraid of getting hurt.
The time has come to tear down your wall and quit being afraid of getting hurt by others. Not everyone is out to destroy you and some people really do just want to be your friend.
A great way to attract friends is to ask them questions. Don't just sit in your shy box and expect others to come up to you. You need to be the person to make the first move and say hello and ask a little bit about them. As you get to know a little bit about them, do your best to remember those things so you can talk about them in the future. Ask questions about what type of things they like to do or their favorite sports team. As you start to ask questions, you will build a relationship with this person and they will start asking questions about you.
The best relationships are built by people that know how to sacrifice and be selfless. Sure we all have tendencies to be a little selfish, but you need to know when it is time to put the relationship before your own needs. Do small things for the people in your life to show them how much you appreciate them. Try to do things that will make their life easier like cutting the grass or taking out the trash. Be generous to the other person in your relationship and they will do the same in return.
Don't forget to tell the people in your life how much they mean to you. If you are in love, tell your spouse or partner how much you love them. Remember to do this on a daily basis to keep the relationship strong and healthy. Spend time together and work on building your relationship. A lot of marriages end because the couple didn't spend enough alone time together and they quickly grew into 2 separate individuals.
