Being motivated to stop being so quick to assume

woman31936703.jpg
Wanting to stop being so quick to assume is something that may not happen overnight, but being motivated to do so is the first step to achieving this goal. There are several things you can begin to do over the next several weeks that will help you to stop being so quick to assume and will also make you a better a person.

Avoid being judgmental.
People are just people, they are not good or bad or right or wrong. Try to forget the concepts of people being "right" and "wrong". You have not been in "their shoes". You may have done something differently if you were, but you just don't know. Being judgmental of others is only a waste of time. Also, you may be missing out on opportunities and relationships. Nobody is perfect, including you. Try to look for and recognize the good in yourself and others.

Respect yourself and others.
Don't think you are the only one that deserves respect. You must show respect to get respect. Respect is not about material things or a person's wealth or social standing. Respect is when you acknowledge another human being's dignity and treat them how you wish to be treated. You should also respect yourself by not letting others walk on you or treat you badly.

Communicate better with others.
Practice being a good listener. And being a good listener does take some practice. Many people love to talk about themselves, so give them the opportunity to do so. As they are talking, take an interest in what they are saying. Be sure to ask questions and try not to interrupt them. When you practice being a good listener, you are showing respect and you will also have a better understanding of what that person is saying to you. The other person will surely appreciate your attention and interest. Many misunderstandings and missed instructions could be avoided by really listening to what is being said. The next time you are participating in a conversation, try to count the number of times you use "I" when you are talking. Also, see if you can count the number of times you have interrupted the other person. If are able to count this number, you need to take a serious look at your communication skills.

Be a reliable person.
Try to be a reliable person, someone that others can count on. If you say you are going to do something, do it. This may not always be possible but keeping your promises and agreements is where integrity begins. Avoid being a push-over or wishy-washy. This will cause people to walk all over you. Be assertive, but not aggressive. Assertiveness and aggression are two different things. Be assertive, yet flexible at the same time. This may sound difficult but once you begin to implement this type of behavior, it will become easier to continue to do.

Be an honest person, maintain your dignity and integrity.
When you are deceitful, it will only come back to haunt you one day. It is best to be honest but not brutally honest. There are ways of telling the truth that are gentle and tactful. If you have made a mistake, don't try to use lies to cover it up. It is best to admit that you are human and have made a mistake. Set your standards and stand by them.

By doing so, you will attract people who respect these standards and who have standards of their own. It is easier to deal with people in work or personal situations that have their integrity intact. You want to be a person that is respected that maintains their integrity and dignity.

Search our site for more information:

Like this article? Then Post To Digg
Or add it to your Del.icio.us Bookmarks!

Recent Posts: « Where to find help for getting more motivated? | Main | Getting motivated to be less judgmental »


Tags:

TrackBack

TrackBack URL for this entry:
http://www.improvingyourworld.com/cgi-bin/mt-tb.cgi/2855

Post a comment

(If you haven't left a comment here before, you may need to be approved by the site owner before your comment will appear. Until then, it won't appear on the entry. Thanks for waiting.)

All comments are coded with nofollow and reviewed before posting, so please don't waste your time or mine with comment or trackback spam on this site.

Copyright © 2005-2009 by Breakthrough Consulting, Inc. All Rights Reserved.