About 18% of married couples have sex less than 10 times a year, causing experts to classify their marriages as "sexless marriages". A sexless marriage can lead to a handful of marital problems from cheating, emotional withdraw, depression, domestic violence, to a divorce. Newsweek conducted a survey and found that married couples have sex on average of once a week.
Have you ever seen an unfair fight? Three on one where two people hold a third while the fourth punches unmercifully can be seen on school playgrounds wherever you go. The bigger guy comes out on top, the more agile one keeps the blunderer at bay, and life goes on as you know it. What makes a playground fist fight different than a fight in the boxing ring? What makes a professional sports team work cohesively for one goal against another team without all hell breaking loose? The answer is simple: rules.
What happens when the honeymoon phase is over? Your passion begins to cool, the endorphins don't run as freely, and love can begin to dwindle and die. Divorce is so rampant in our society because people don't realize that long-lasting relationships are something you actually have to work at. Ya, work at! A new relationship is easy because the endorphins are running wild and your body is filled with chemicals that create feelings of vibrancy and joy, but the chemical release really doesn't have much to do with true, long-lasting, love.
Money can be a huge source of contention when it comes to your marriage. Sometimes not making enough is an issue, but most of the time, a spouse's spending habits and the lack of communication between spouses are what leads couples down the road to divorce. If money management is putting a strain on your marriage, here are some solutions that may help:
Dr. Dan Allender, a marriage and family counseling psychologist, says that in his experience, 90% of couples he sees can trace their marital discord back to a failure to leave the influence of their parents, or a failure to cut the apron strings. Although adult children may think they are independent of mom and dad, their partner may see that they are still depending on their parents in one or more of three ways: in decision making, emotionally, and as a referee in conflict. A marriage only works when it is between two people, no strings attached. There are some things you can do to help yourself and your spouse cut the apron strings and still remain in a respectful and loving relationship with both sets of parents.
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