Everyone needs to feel loved and appreciated and when it comes to having a strong marriage, being under-valued can really hurt your self esteem and destroy your marriage. Being dominated by your spouse will cause strain on the marriage and it may cause the marriage to end in divorce.
Failure in inevitable if we do not maintain focus. Donald Trump's net worth was negative $900 million dollars at one point in his life; he stated it was because he lost focus. The difference between people that fail and those that fail and succeed is the desire to stay motivated and pick yourself back up. Here are some tips on how you can stay motivated to improve your marriage:
Do you and your spouse set goals in your marriage? Goal setting is a great way to improve your marriage because you are both sitting down together to find ways to keep your marriage moving in the right direction for both of you. Setting goals for a marriage will help it to keep up the momentum it needs for both parties to stay committed and motivated. Creating goals in a marriage also helps to improve the unity and it enforces a relationship built on companionship.
Intimacy is one of the best ways to make your spouse feel loved and cared for. Many couples simply get too caught up in their daily lives to make intimacy part of the marriage. It often only happens on special occasions or it just doesn't happen. Take a look over the last week of your marriage, the last month, and the last year. How often are you intimate with your spouse? A healthy marriage needs daily work and regular intimacy in order to remain healthy.
Small gifts from your spouse can help the two of you stay motivated to work on your marriage. A small gift reminds your spouse that you are thinking of them and their happiness in the relationship. Here are some tips on what type of gifts your spouse will like:
Over time it is natural to fall into some marital pits. Lack of communication leads to a handful of problems in marriage. Here is a list of some tips that can help you improve your communication skills:
A strong marriage doesn't happen overnight. It takes a lot of time and commitment on your part. If you have children, they often overtake the spare time you have and you and your spouse may find it hard to spend some time alone. This article will discuss some ways you can find time for your spouse:
About 18% of married couples have sex less than 10 times a year, causing experts to classify their marriages as "sexless marriages". A sexless marriage can lead to a handful of marital problems from cheating, emotional withdraw, depression, domestic violence, to a divorce. Newsweek conducted a survey and found that married couples have sex on average of once a week.
Have you ever seen an unfair fight? Three on one where two people hold a third while the fourth punches unmercifully can be seen on school playgrounds wherever you go. The bigger guy comes out on top, the more agile one keeps the blunderer at bay, and life goes on as you know it. What makes a playground fist fight different than a fight in the boxing ring? What makes a professional sports team work cohesively for one goal against another team without all hell breaking loose? The answer is simple: rules.
What happens when the honeymoon phase is over? Your passion begins to cool, the endorphins don't run as freely, and love can begin to dwindle and die. Divorce is so rampant in our society because people don't realize that long-lasting relationships are something you actually have to work at. Ya, work at! A new relationship is easy because the endorphins are running wild and your body is filled with chemicals that create feelings of vibrancy and joy, but the chemical release really doesn't have much to do with true, long-lasting, love.
Money can be a huge source of contention when it comes to your marriage. Sometimes not making enough is an issue, but most of the time, a spouse's spending habits and the lack of communication between spouses are what leads couples down the road to divorce. If money management is putting a strain on your marriage, here are some solutions that may help:
Dr. Dan Allender, a marriage and family counseling psychologist, says that in his experience, 90% of couples he sees can trace their marital discord back to a failure to leave the influence of their parents, or a failure to cut the apron strings. Although adult children may think they are independent of mom and dad, their partner may see that they are still depending on their parents in one or more of three ways: in decision making, emotionally, and as a referee in conflict. A marriage only works when it is between two people, no strings attached. There are some things you can do to help yourself and your spouse cut the apron strings and still remain in a respectful and loving relationship with both sets of parents.
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