For most people, a sexless marriage comes from lack of effort on their part. They allow their time to be consumed by so many other things that sex becomes less of a priority. There are about 25% of Americans that actually suffer from a condition know as Hypoactive Sexual Desire (HSD). HSD currently does not have a cure and the symptoms are a persistent lack of interest in sex.

Many couples are told that a sexless marriage is just a phase and that they will get through it. While this may the case for some couples, it isn't for 90% of all cases. Most sexless marriages can be cured; you just need to find what the problem is. For some couples, they are lacking an emotional connection to their spouse. For others, they are lacking a physical connection to their spouse.

Every marriage has its different challenges. You and your spouse may be going through a dry spell because you are worried about your financial situation or you are worried about fulfilling the needs of your children. Many couples worry so much about other things that they withhold sex from their partner because they are upset with their daily struggles.

There are 2 people in the marriage and only the two of you can fix your problems. Paying hundreds of dollars to a shrink may help you both communicate better, but it won't help your sex life unless you both make an effort to change it. Take time out of your busy schedule and have a romantic evening with your spouse. Find ways to remind one another of your love that you share. Pull out your wedding pictures and other photos and remind one another about the good times you have shared. This can help to spark the fire between the two of you again.

Another way to rekindle the fire is to date each other again. Act like you are on your first date and get to know your spouse better. Spend time connecting with them emotionally and forget some of the daily stresses and pressures you have.

Don't turn to another person for sex, this will only make your marriage worse. If you are not satisfied in your marriage, talk to your spouse about it. Let them know of your needs and ask for their help. Even if your spouse doesn't enjoy sex that much, they may be willing to help you with your needs because that is part of being committed to one another in your marriage. Don't be afraid to try new things in the bedroom. Purchase a book with some tips on how to be a better lover and try them in the bedroom. Perhaps your spouse is disinterested in sex because they need something to feel new and different.

If the two of you are constantly upset with one another, stop avoiding each other and face your problems head-on. Don't sleep on the sofa to avoid your spouse, talk to them directly about your marital problems and work on fixing them before it is too late. Hire a counselor to help you both re-connect with one another. Keeping the lines of communication open is one of the best things you can do to cure your sexless marriage.