Do you have low self-esteem
Before you can overcome any problems that are associated from low self-esteem, you need to determine if you have low self-esteem. You might be shocked to realize that low self-esteem is not a rare problem, it is rather quite common, and people have to deal with it every day. In order to tell if you have low self-esteem you will need to know what symptoms to look for.
The first symptom that you need to look at for is the inability to make decisions. People with low self-esteem usually have a hard time making any kind of decision, whether it is for himself or herself or for somebody else. The reason for this is that they are afraid of making the wrong decisions. It can also be because they are afraid of not being able to make people happy because they are not good enough to make the decision.
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Another symptom that you need to be on the lookout for is shame. People who suffer from low self-esteem often suffer from an abnormally high amount of shame because they feel bad about themselves. Most of the time this shame the person is feeling is caused by the fact that the person doesn't look a certain way. People with low self-esteem feel that they do not look good enough for other people so they are ashamed of their looks and try to hide it. In other cases the feeling of being ashamed is because of how a person with low self-esteem is acting, they think that the way they are acting is wrong because they are not acting like themselves; they are acting how others want them to act. This is often not realized by the person who has low self-esteem until later on because they are too busy trying to please other people, they are afraid they are going to do something wrong.
Something else that people with low self-esteem suffer from is the need or desire to be perfect. People who have low self-esteem are never pleased with what they do and will constantly apologize or do things over until they are satisfied, no matter how satisfied you are with what they have done. The reason that they try so hard to be perfect is that they think others will be happy with the perfection. It then gets to the point that they think other people will like them more if they are perfect and if they make a mistake, nobody is going to want to be their friends anymore.
In addition to trying to be, perfect people who have low self-esteem cannot handle any type of criticism, even if it is constructive criticism. If people begin to criticize them or reject what they have to say people with low self-esteem often get severely depressed or they retreat inside themselves. By retreating inside themselves, they do not have to worry about being rejected. Not being able to accept constructive criticism makes it hard for people with low self-esteem to get things done because if they make one small mistake and you try showing them a different way to do it they will shut down. They will also worry or think that the worst is about to happen.
The reason that people with low self-esteem worry or think they worst is about to happen is that they are trying to protect themselves. They will constantly worry about what could happen so that they can prepare themselves for the worst, they also can never see anything positive, no matter what is going on.
If you think you have low self-esteem, you know somebody, who does the best thing that you can do for him, or her is to try to help him or her boost his or her self-esteem by being a positive role model. In some cases, it might help to talk to a professional to help deal with the trauma that caused the problem in the first place.
