Remember who you fell in love with. What made you fall in love in the first place? You will both find things that you loved that have changed. But what do you love now? Keep in mind that you got married because you were in love.

Maybe you each need to take a look at your lives. Where are you focusing the most? If you are using too much of your focus on things other than yourselves and each other, then there needs to be a reevaluation. Maybe there are things that are growing between you that you can control.

If you are looking for a reason to make your marriage work, do back to the days of dating. Why did you want to get married? You had dreams that you were making together. Are you still working of those dreams? When we stop dreaming we are kicking ourselves in the face and putting ourselves down. Go back to a place that you can dream together.

When both of you just aren't sure what makes a successful marriage, find someone who did. There is someone out there that has been through a tough marriage and they worked it out and became a strong couple again. Use this couple as a mentor. Ask them questions you are struggling with and use them as examples of love. Knowing that there is hope can motivate you into action, don't lose what you can't get back.

Working together with a mentor will be something that will bring you motivation in every aspect of our life. There are always things that affect our whole lives, work on them together and don't forget to be involved in each other's problems.

Find what your marriage has lost over the years. Is it communication, humor, friendship, or what? Together you can find a way to start talking again or laughing again. You can even find the friend that you started the journey out with. Just because you have misplaced something in your marriage doesn't mean that it is lost forever, motivate yourself to find it again.

Don't forget about your kids in all of this. Maybe they are motivation enough to make you work on your marriage. They shouldn't be the reason you stay together, if it is over then don't hold on, but they should be great motivation for you to start doing something in the right direction. You both love your kids, so do what is best for them and for yourselves.

Any action in the right direction can help your marriage. If you knew that taking a step would make you happier and your marriage better, would that be enough? Look deep inside and see how bad you really want to work on your marriage. Find something that drives you and never let go of it. You don't need to settle for a drifting marriage, take anchor and do something.