You can have a successful marriage if you are willing to put the effort into it. The following are some tips that will help you to be successful in marriage.

Be committed.
Some people go into marriage thinking, "If it doesn't work out, we can just get divorced." While of course there are times when this is necessary (many experts believe that the 3 A's-adultery, abuse, and addiction-should be grounds for divorce), make sure that you are both committed to your marriage and to each other. Take your marriage vows seriously and be prepared to work together to make your marriage successful.

Make time together a priority.
You will naturally grow apart if you don't make it a priority to spend time together as a couple. You don't have to schedule a "date night" to do this or make elaborate plans. There are many ways you can spend time together as a couple, like making dinner together, going for walks together, running errands together, and so forth. This is a great time to talk and be together as a couple.

Communicate.
Successful communication is one of the most important aspects of a successful marriage. Being a successful communicator means being able to convey your thoughts, worries, concerns, and problems in a calm, clear manner. Being a good communicator also means learning how to listen when your spouse is talking to you, asking questions if you don't understand, and reiterating what they say rather than thinking of what you're going to say next. Being a good communicator also means knowing how to fight fairly, which means avoiding nagging, shouting, accusing, or being overly emotional. Couples who can successfully communicate have better relationships overall.

If you feel like your communication skills could use some work, there are many great help books out there to help you get started. Or, you could go to marriage counseling to get tips on how to communicate successfully as a couple.

Don't underestimate the importance of intimacy.
Successful marriages are those that realize the role intimacy plays in marriage. Don't overlook it. Everyone gets tired, stressed, and busy, but make time for sex in your marriage, even if you have to schedule it! If you have kids, you might need to be a little more flexible with times, but keep in mind that couples who neglect intimacy tend to feel frustrated and begin to drift apart.

Be appreciative.
Everyone likes to know that they are appreciated, and your spouse is no exception. Take time to thank them and let them know you recognize and are grateful for things like going to work, keeping the house clean, taking great care of the kids, and so forth. Never take your spouse for granted and you will have a successful marriage.

Learn to compromise.
Successful marriages are those who are willing to compromise with each other on a number of issues. Try and see your spouse's side of things and figure out a way to work things out so both are happy.

Successful marriages don't come easy, but with a lot of love and dedication, you can make your marriage successful.