How to motivate yourself to stop being judgmental
Do you find that when you walk into a room you automatically judge the people in it? You look at what they wear, what they eat, what they say, how they act, etc.? Many people feel that being judgmental is a flaw to overcome, and we couldn't agree more. It is damaging to yourself and your relationships. The following are some great ways to motivate yourself to stop being judgmental:
1. Put yourself in their shoes. If you take the time to actually think how you would feel if you were the one being judged, you will likely be less quick to judge others. However, one of the best ways to motivate yourself to stop being judgmental is to take a look at how you feel about being judged yourself. Would you want someone thinking those things about you? Would you want someone to look at your actions and interpret them the way you interpret theirs? When you take the time to think it through, and apply the situation to yourself, that is when you recognize the need to stop being judgmental. That is when you get motivated to hold your tongue.
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2. Bite your tongue. If you want to get motivated to stop being judgmental you have to bite your tongue. Make it a real priority to not saying anything, at least not the first day. You should bite your tongue until you have had time to mull it over in your head. It is like the anger thing. If you wait a day before you do anything about it, you usually say less stupid stuff. So, do the same with judging others. Bite your tongue, wait a day, and see how judgmental you will be feeling about the situation the next day.
3. Fake it until you make it. If you want to get motivated to stop being judgmental, then fake it until you make it. Even if you are still judging someone, keep it to yourself. If you can convince others that you are not judging, and keep it internal, you will begin to judge less, and less, and less. Then pretty soon you will be motivated to stop. You will not just be motivated, you will be able to. Why? Because you do not like who you are when you are judging others, and because you find that you still have friends, people still like you, listen to you, and more when you are not judging. So, you will stop.
4. Consider how you feel when someone judges you. Have you ever heard of a judgment someone made about you? How far off the mark were they? Did you feel a little violated or betrayed by the judgment? So, why would you do this to someone? One big motivator to stop judging is others is to think about how you want to be treated, looked at, judged, etc.
Being less judgmental is very difficult. Often times it is like changing something that is very much apart of who you are. A lot of the time we have been raised up to judge others. We hear judgment being passed at home, we see others around us judging, and it is a habit we fall into. These old habits are hard to break, but they are possible to break. So, do not think that you can't get motivated to stop being judgmental. You have to try, and the above steps will really help.
