Learning to get along with personalities that you clash with
Most all of us can think of a person or two that we do not quite get along with. While some of us may have on-going feuds with these people we do not get along with, many more of us suffer dislike due to personality clashes. We are all different and although this is a beautiful thing, it naturally means that we are not going to agree with or become friends with everyone that we meet. There are going to be those people who just rub us the wrong way and make us want to walk in the other direction when we see them.
Many times the easy solution is to simply avoid the person that you do not get along with. Sometimes the people that we clash with are only acquaintances that we see on rare occasions. In cases like these it is not too hard to deal with the person you can't stand. But unfortunately you know as well as I do that the people whose personalities we clash with are often people that we see on a regular basis. Co-workers, neighbors and even some family members are among those who are some of our most inconvenient acquaintances. Obviously in situations such as this it is necessary to learn how to get along with personalities that you clash with.
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Of the many suggestions that you may hear one of the most highly recommended suggestions for learning to get along with personalities that you clash with is to find something about the person that you respect. In other words, sincerely try to find something about that person that will help you to think better of them. It could be something as small as witnessing a one-time act of courtesy or perhaps admiring the cleanliness of the other individual's workspace. Whatever it is be sure that you try hard (as in fight the urge to be sarcastic about the one positive thing that you found) to see the best that you can in the other person.
Your desire to improve the feel and your comfort level when around the person that you do not get along with is great motivation. For those of us who have co-workers that we clash with, let the motivation of having a pleasant work environment be your driving force as you look for ways that you can change your attitude towards the other individual. You may find that seeing the good in another person comes easier when you have a sincere desire to obtain a liking for that person.
Now, for those of you who have read this far and tried what has been suggested with no success, the only thing that you have left to do is to try to maintain a polite distance from the person whose personality that you clash with. Avoid any and all confrontations with that person. This does not mean that you should ignore this person or run the other way when you see him coming. Simply keep your goal to avoid him at the back of your mind and try not to cross paths. Do not let your dislike for someone who simply does not think the same way as you, keep you from achieving your goals and being happy even when he is in the same space.
Remember that you should always be polite. It doesn't matter who you come in contact with and how unbearable their company is to you, they deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. Remember that you cannot control the actions and opinions of others. But you do have complete control over yourself. Seek to make changes within yourself rather than thinking that you can somehow manipulate others into thinking and acting like you do. When all is said and done you will know that even though you did not particularly like someone, you took the "high road" by trying to make a bad situation better by making changes within yourself.
