Love Your Love Life
Self improvement is a hot topic. How do you get motivated to be a better you? Well, one way is by improving your love life. When you have a more fulfilling love life, you have a more fulfilling life and can more easily be a better you. Just experiment for a minute. When your significant other walks in the door, rather than saying, "Hello hunny, how was your day?" and giving him (or her) a peck, instead wrap your arms around them tightly, look deep into their eyes and tell them you love them from your soul then kiss them solidly. Don't you feel like a better you already? Here are some steps to help you improve your love life and thus improve yourself:
Step #1: Spend alone time weekly.
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The greatest way to improve your love life and thus improve yourself is to spend time with your significant other away from distractions and do it every week. Spending time together alone is important because it gives you a chance to come together as a couple and just be. It is a time you can spend to unwind, fall in love again, grow closer together, laugh together, and just be together. Make it a weekly tradition, but don't let it be routine or get into a groove where it no longer helps you. Pick a night, morning or afternoon that everything else is put on hold and you and your spouse (or significant other) just spend time together doing something you love or just being together. Make it a yearly tradition to go on a vacation together, alone. No kids, no work, no distractions for one week together. If you want to significantly improve your relationship and love life and become a better person through doing it you have to spend time together alone and do it consistently.
Step #2: Love your spouse how they love to be loved.
If you are reading this it is because you want to feel loved. Each of us feels love, but we all feel it most strongly a little differently than the next person. If you want to improve your love life and in the process become a better person, learn to love your spouse (or significant other) the way the feel your love the strongest and teach your spouse/ significant other how you feel the most loved. In his book, "The Five Love Languages," Dr. Gary Chapman sites five ways in which people feel the most loved and encourages couples to find out how they feel most loved. He also encourages couples to use the love languages of their significant other to help them feel the most loved and improve their relationship. If you really want to improve your love life, check out his book and incorporate the principles he teaches into your life.
Step #3: The fresh and interesting factor.
Most love lives die because they become routine and boring. Improve your love life and yourself by keeping things fresh and interesting. Buy new lingerie (for the women I hope), invest in intimacy games, pretend like you are having an affair together, or do something different each week for your weekly date rather than the old "dinner and a movie" thing you always do. When one of you has a success, celebrate by doing something out of the ordinary. You don't have to let the love die to rekindle it and have a better love life. Keep the love alive always and become a better you in the process.
