1. Now, the fact that we're spending time on this little essay means that some motivation to be better people is already there. And that's really where it starts, just a vague desire to be something better. Maybe I'm overweight. Maybe I'm doing poorly in school. Maybe my romantic relationships haven't worked out. Something must be wrong, and it's not good blaming other people. This is a great place to start when it comes to motivation to become a better person.
2. Here's the second absolutely write it down memorize it treat it like scripture. Whenever we start talking about change, we begin to feel better immediately. Chemicals in our brain release to tell us we're onto something, the same chemicals that are released when we really starting doing the something. It's fun to talk about change, it's fun to talk about getting in shape, it's fun to talk about going back to school, because all of those things are beneficial and our brains will reward us just for thinking about them.
3. BUT WE CAN'T RELY ON SUCH POSITIVE FEELINGS TO KEEP US ON TRACK. In some ways, it's related to the story of the boy who cried wolf. Your body starts to recognize after a while that talking about become a better you is only that, talking. And you don't get the same natural high, and you think, what's the point. This happens to everybody. The key, then, is to begin immediately acting on those good feelings once they arrive.
4. You want to become a better you. Let's say you're not exactly overweight, you're not exactly underweight, but you feel tired all the time and you want a stronger, firmer, more attractive body. And you sit down one night with a friend and start discussing it and your brain acts as if it's already started to occur. You feel euphoric, joyful, hopeful. What you've absolutely got to do is start acting on those feeling immediately, no matter how halfheartedly at first. Set a low goal to begin with. Let me give you an example from real life.
5. A friend of mine, due to several factors outside of his control, such as wrongly prescribed medication etc., rapidly put on thirty pounds. It took him about a month to do it. At that point he was so depressed that he just kept eating, buying bigger clothes, and before he knew it he'd bloomed basically another body. He was drinking and smoking to hide the feelings of insecurity and loneliness he felt. Now, obviously this is only a very small part of a very complex story, but the end is quite interesting.
6. One day, my friend decided that enough was enough. We had a conversation in which I shared with him how quickly I'd made improvements to my own body by a simple exercise routine. My friend got excited, and the very next day he got on a treadmill for twenty minutes. Just twenty minutes! I was living with him at the time, and remember his first walk about the stairs, literally a whale of a guy and drenched in sweat. He also made some fundamental changes to his diet (working, of course, with his personal physician). And he kept doing 20 minutes of cardio vascular exercise idea, whether it was biking, a treadmill, whatever. After about a month, he moved up to thirty minutes of cardio and increased his healthy calorie intake. And you know what? He lost 80 pounds in four months, and by the end of the fifth month was in the best shape of his life.
7. Again, let's consider how he did it. First, he felt a motivation to do it, he wanted to be a better person, he wanted to feel better about himself. He did this through talking to a close friend who encouraged him. After that, however, he was on his own. 20 minutes a day, five days a week, with a low calorie, healthy diet. It took him an hour a day, tops. And he accomplished his goal and felt that he'd become a better version of himself.
Becoming a better you isn't easy, of course. Twenty minutes on a treadmill for a guy who's used to eating cheese burgers as a snack before the main course is torture. But still, it was only twenty minutes. If you want to become a better you, talk to someone you trust, get fired up about it, and start the process of becoming a better you immediately, no matter how small your initial steps are.