Responsibility is a Big Word
It's every kids dream to move out of the house. Their parents can't boss them around anymore, they can make their own rules, and life will be good. However, sometime between childhood and adulthood, the dream of moving out can lose its glamor. Moving out is a big step to becoming your own person. It signifies that you are an adult and can fend for yourself. A lot of young adults can lose their motivation to get out of the house because of fear, doubt, and their unwillingness to shoulder responsibility. If you are one of those, you may ask how you get motivated to go out on your own. To get motivated to move out on your own and fend for yourself, the following tips can get you started.
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Tip #1: Think about the benefits rather than the difficulties.
It is true that moving out is difficult. If you don't have a job, you have to find one. You suddenly run into all those things your parents used to pay for that now you have to provide for yourself like food, insurance, and gas money. Fending for yourself is difficult, but if all you think about are the difficulties, you won't be motivated to make the move. If you really want to be motivated to move out, think about the benefits. They are the same as when you were a kid and more. You get to set your own rules. You get to prove you are an adult and be treated like one. The benefits you'll find are pretty personal to you. They may not seem to outweigh the difficulties at first, but you'll find that later, when the difficulties are taken care of, they weren't that difficult.
Tip #2: Build anticipation.
When you decide to move out, if you really want to be motivated and make it through the first couple of months of hard living, don't move out right away. This may sound counter productive, but really waiting builds anticipation thus building excitement and motivation. Set a date for when you are going out on your own, but put it out a month from when you decide for sure to do it. Work toward that date and get excited. Make it the most important date of your life thus far. Waiting for a short period of time before you actually start helps you to focus on your goal of being self-sufficient and poor energy into it. Where your energy goes, your motivation will follow. The more anticipation you build, the better the experience will be for you and the longer you'll stay motivated.
Tip #3: Find a friend.
If you have a hard time getting motivated to move out on your own, then don't be afraid to ask for help. Find a friend that is willing to get a residence with you. A friend can be a huge motivating factor. You can psych each other up for the big day, help resolve each other's anxieties, pool your resources, and get each other out of slumps that would overcome you on your own. A friend to move in with is one part of a bigger support network that will help you get motivated when you need the extra boost. They are lending you their energy to take this step and cheering you on so you can make it on your own. You are taking on big responsibilities in fending for yourself, so it's okay if you fall back on others when your motivation is lacking.
