Up not Down
If you feel as though your marriage has hit rock bottom, it probably has. At this point, all you can do it think up, not down. Wallowing in self-destructive behavior of heartache, doubt, and disappointment will destroy your marriage. Use your failures as motivation to start working toward improvement and to climb back up the hill. Overcoming difficult problems is the only way you can salvage what is left of your marriage.

Confidence and Desire
Having confidence in yourself and in your spouse is an important part of staying motivated in your marriage. If you have made small mistakes in your marriage, remind yourself that there is always a chance to do better. Choose your mistakes as ways to keep yourself motivated to work harder and to be a better spouse. Set a goal for yourself and for your partner and envision yourself reaching that goal. When you envision yourself achieving that goal, it will be easier to find ways to reach it. For example, if you spend most of your time doing your own activities, set a schedule on how much time you will spend doing your personal hobbies and how much time you will spend with your spouse.

Part of having confidence in yourself also comes with having a true desire to change. If you cannot see yourself in this marriage for the long haul, talk to your partner about your feelings. It is better to get out of a failed relationship now than to wait 5 years and put your partner through more emotional trauma. You need to have the desire to stay in love with your spouse and to stay motivated to work your marriage each day.

Remove Roadblocks
It is easier to stay motivated when you remove all the roadblocks that are blocking your path. If you find yourself swaying toward another person instead of your spouse, cut-off communication with them and focus more on your spouse. Having a change of direction can help anyone that may be starting to feel like their marriage is heading toward the beginning of the end. If something isn't working for you, change it. Re-evaluate the road you are traveling on and find a way to get around this roadblock. Sometimes dramatic changes like a move or a new job can help someone that feels like they have hit a roadblock.

Everyone Struggles
Do not allow yourself to get caught up in what your neighbors marriages are like. No two marriages are exactly the same, everyone has their own unique struggles and challenges and it is important to make your own marriage. Everyone will have struggles in their relationships, yours may seem more extreme than others, but it is completely natural. Allow yourself some time to cope with your struggles and then make an action plan to get through them as a team. Make a goal and use this as your motivation. The only thing you can do is pick yourself back up and keep moving forward with your spouse.

Take each day as it is and focus on the end of the day, not 1 year from now or 5 years from now. Live in the moment with your spouse and make your goals together. As you start to see success with some of your smaller goals, it will be easier to create larger goals like starting a family, moving, career changes, etc.