Supreme Self-Confidence
There is a fine line to being out-going and assertive and being over-bearing and aggressive. Understanding the essential differences is the first step to becoming a better you and being more assertive. Assertive behavior can save you from wasting time, but if it develops into aggressiveness, it can limit your potential. Most people are under assertive. They float through life letting others walk over them or walk by them. They may want to make new friends, learn new things, or be adventurous, but they are afraid. Get motivated to be more out-going and assertive by following a few simple rules that can change your view of yourself and give you the self-confidence to do instead of just dream.
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Rule #1: Know Yourself
You know yourself better than anyone, but do you truly know yourself? Only when we know ourselves and understand our limits can we pattern our behavior to be a better person than our current state. Get motivated to be a better you by getting to know yourself. Get to know your likes and dislikes. Figure out how far you are willing to go to make your dreams a reality. Ask yourself what makes you comfortable in meeting new people, in speaking out, in standing up for yourself, and in general. Really get to know yourself; all of yourself. There are going to be things that you like and things you dislike about yourself. There may even be things that you hate about yourself. Once you know yourself, you'll find it much easier to know others and see what makes them tick. Once you can see that, you can make it work to your advantage. Get motivated to be out-going by discovering all there is to know about you. You'll be excited by what you discover about you.
Rule #2: Develop Self-Love
The most important thing you can do to motivate yourself to be more out-going and assertive is to develop self-love. This is not pride or vanity we're talking about, but a true self-love that turns into confidence, action, and achievement. If there are things you have found in getting to know yourself that you don't like or outright hate about yourself, either change them, or find a way to love them. You have to accept every part of you if you are going to motivate yourself to go out and be assertive. People can pick up on what we don't like about ourselves and use it to destroy our self-esteem. Don't give them the opportunity. Motivate yourself to be out-going by developing the self-love and confidence you need to do anything.
Rule #3: Practice
Staying motivated to be out-going and assertive takes practice. You won't know what works for you until you practice it. You can stay motivated by practicing successful strategies. If you want to make new friends, practice ways of introducing yourself that you are comfortable with. You can practice in the mirror, or with a trusted friend. Whatever you decide to do, you should practice staying motivated to be a better you by being out-going. Practice makes perfect, but practicing successful strategies keeps you going if you run into a situation that requires you to be assertive. Muscles require exercise to perform properly when called upon in a pinch. Your assertive muscle is the same. You have to practice if you expect to use it in a pinch. Practice builds confidence. Be a better you and stay motivated by practicing your new assertive behavior.
