This is My Good Side
Starting a new relationship can be a difficult and painful process, especially if you are still carting around baggage from your last relationship. Fear and anxiety often undermine courage and confidence when it comes to meeting someone special. When you lack confidence, you lack luster and don't attract the people you would want to start a relationship with. Pain from your last relationship may linger making it hard to even think about starting a new one. All this can lead to a total lack of motivation to start a new relationship, or even the thought that there is no way you can get a date. People don't like you, people aren't attracted to you, so why should you even try? Being motivated to get a date or to start a new relationship isn't about how other people see you; it's about how you see you. If you think you can't, then you can't. To turn your attitude around and gain the motivation and confidence you need to start a new relationship, try concentrating on the following:
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Concentrate on you - Get yourself up and going
You are the only thing holding you back. Get motivated to get out there and date by loving yourself again. There are two areas of you that you can concentrate on that will get you up and motivated again.
- Health and Wellness - When you are healthy, you feel better about yourself. When you feel better about yourself, you feel more confident, which allows you to be motivated to go out and meet people. Boost your confidence and give yourself more motivation by eating right and exercising. Even if you are overweight or out of shape, a little exercise can go a long way to getting you feeling better about yourself and giving you the motivation to meet new people. People who eat right and exercise literally have a healthier glow about them that attracts other people. You don't have to do anything but look better and you'll have more motivation and confidence to go out and start a new relationship.
- Mental and Emotional - If you are having a hard time liking yourself, you won't be motivated to go out and let others like you. Take some time to get to know yourself. Accept and love what you cannot or are not willing to change. Find things about yourself to absolutely love. Concentrate on those things. Find the things about yourself that you absolutely hate. Don't bury them, but accept them as a part of who you are. The more accepting you are of yourself, the more motivation you will have to go out and meet others. If you aren't a whole person, you won't have a successful relationship in the long run no matter how many people you date. Success breeds motivation, so allow yourself a chance at success by loving and accepting yourself first.
Concentrate on successes - Rejection is a myth
Too many people allow themselves to lose their motivation to date because they have been rejected so many times. Don't be one of them. Concentrate on the success you've had in dating. Successes can include talking to one new person everyday, going on a date once a month, etc. Don't set the bar for success so high that you lose your motivation to keep going. Your ultimate success would be to find Mr. or Miss Right, but allow yourself successes along the way to build motivation off of so you are still around when he or she comes along.
