1. You're not having your normal amount of sex. This can indicate problems in a couple of different ways. First, it could be strictly emotionally related. If you're not feeling emotionally connected, you're not feeling the romance, and you're not feeling desire. It could also be a sign of infidelity. So, before jumping to any conclusions talk to your spouse about the decreased amount of sex. There may be a perfectly good explanation, and if there is not, at least you know that there isn't.
2. You're not talking. Sure, you pass on information, you give each other messages, but you're not really talking. Part of connecting on an emotional level is connecting on a personal mental level. Are you discussing your problems with co-workers more than you are with your spouse? Does your conversation center around whose driving carpool tomorrow and who'll pick up the dry cleaning and entirely skip anything that might lead to how you feel? It is through talking and expressing feelings and emotions that you get closer, so if you aren't talking, you could be heading for more serious trouble.
3. You fight without making up. Sometimes when you fight the best way to cool off and change the tone is to take a time out and stop discussing the problem. Often, time to think can give you both a different perspective and willingness to compromise. But if every conversation is ending in an argument and every argument goes unresolved, you need to get help fast. So, think back, how are you getting past fights, through resolution, or by ignoring the problems?
4. Evidence of infidelity. Whether there is or isn't cheating going on, even the suspicion can start putting up a wall between you. Bringing it out into the open is necessary, but doing it as calmly as possible and with a neutral mediator can help mitigate the damages and keep a wind storm from becoming a tornado. So, be tactful, do not jump to conclusions, be honest, and share your concerns in a mature, adult like manner.
5. Indifference. Maybe there is infidelity and you just don't care. Maybe there are no arguments because you just don't care. Indifference can be a huge sledgehammer to destroy a marriage quickly. Sometimes indifference is feigned to hide hurt, depression or sadness. That can be destructive to your relationship as well. You need to see a marriage counselor to get to the bottom of the matter and regain that emotional bond quickly. Otherwise, you can say goodbye to happiness in marriage, and no one wants to see their marriages end badly.

Seeing a marriage counselor can be a very healthy step in maintaining a positive relationship. Many people with healthy relationships today can thank taking the steps to see a counselor when things got rocky. However, you do not have to have serious problems to want to see a counselor. If you want to improve your marriage, or want some professional help to keep your marriage improving, and know what to look for that may indicate problems, a marriage counselor could be a very god person to turn to.

Watch for the above five signs, and if you see one or multiple of these, call a marriage counselor and get on your way to a healthy happier marriage.