Are you not girlfriend material?
If you are a girl who is friends with a lot of boys, but can't seem to ever be more than a friend, you might think you are not girlfriend material. This is a cop-out that boys use, and girls use when they do not want to risk a friendship, or are too afraid of rejection to ever try to move things forward in a relationship. If you think you are not girlfriend material, consider the following:
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1. If you do not do something to move the relationship forward, you may never get there. It can be scary to move from friends to more, and so you use the cop-out of not really being girlfriend material because you do not want to risk the friendship. However, platonic friendships do not really exist, and thus won't last. Either you will move to more, or eventually the friendship will end, or change because eventually you will have a boyfriend, or a husband, and you won't be able to be as close with your guy friends, because it would be unseemly, and may cause some jealousy. So ask yourself if the person is worth the risk.
2. Consider why you are not considered "girlfriend material," and see if you can do anything to change that. Maybe you dress too much like a tom boy, or maybe you know the guys too well for them to be comfortable with a relationship of romantic proportions. So, it is time for you to make some changes, or at least make those things see, less of a big deal. Do not tell them everything, and start dressing more like a girl. You will find that it may not take much to persuade the boys that you are girlfriend material after all, especially when they realize that they can skip all of the awkward getting to know you stage, and get right into a fun relationship. If the reasons you are not considered girlfriend material have to do with your independence, or your brains, etc. then be complimented, and don't change a thing. It might suck to not date, but you want to wait for someone who is going to appreciate you.
3. Date outside of your group of friends. It is not as easy, and you may get teased some because of it, but the fact is, if your guy friends do not consider you to be girl friend material, you should not have to try and convince them that you are, instead just move on. The phrase "there are plenty of fish in the sea" is a bit silly, but the meaning is true, the guys you are friends with are not the only ones out there, so keep looking. It can be nice to have your friends and boyfriend separate, because then you still have a group of friends to go back to without awkwardness if the relationship ends.
You are girlfriend material so do not forget it, and be proud of who you are. It will make you so much more attractive.
