Being you in a relationship is emotionally fulfilling
Too often people will get in a relationship that doesn't work, and when it ends they mope and whine and then say, "They didn't like me because." Sometimes the dot, dot, dot becomes something they worry about, or think about changing. They think that if they develop that characteristic, or change that problem, etc. that someone else may like them more. There are times when this is a positive thing. For example, of those dots are "I smoke" and they decide to quit, then that is a good thing. But what if it is, "I like Star Wars"? Should a person have to change who they are, or pretend to be something they aren't to get love? No. The fact is if you are in a relationship as yourself, it is far more emotionally fulfilling.
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First, you don't have to be on your guard. If you are in a relationship where you are not really YOU, then you have to be on your guard all of the time, keeping the stories straight, hiding the sides of you that you don't want the person to see, and shuttering yourself off from the person. It is not only exhausting, but it is also going to create stress and tension in the relationship because it closes the honest lines of communication. You can't pretend to be something you are not, and be left feeling satisfied.
Second, you know that the person actually likes you, not a partial or incomplete version of you. There is something really satisfying in knowing that even though you look bad in the mornings, or can't spell at all, or have a nasty temper when you get cut off when driving, that the person sees your bad side, and likes your good side enough to not care. It helps you feel more secure, and thus happier in your relationships. When you are yourself, with no airs, or parts hidden, you can not just hope, but know that your relationship is real, healthy, and one worth keeping.
Third, you get feel good vibes by knowing you are a desirable person. Let's face it, one of the top reasons being you in a relationship is so emotionally fulfilling is because you are essentially proving to yourself and others that you, just you, are desired. In other words, you know they want you, not the version of you they have seen, and thus you feel good. You become more secure, more sure of your worth, and more able to trust, open up, and love them for them, all of which are essential to having a healthy, productive, relationship.
Don't settle for a relationship where you can't be your true self, good and bad. You will be left feeling unfulfilled, and insecure if you are not careful, and your relationships will never be healthy.
