Building strong bonds between parents and children
Parenting is a tough job that requires patience, a lot of work and open communication to ensure that children stay connected through the years with their parents. There is no manual for how to rear children with strong family bonds, but we've put together some of our favorite tips to help you develop a strong, but flexible bond with your child:
Just like with any relationship, building a positive relationship between parent and child is one that requires work and effort to make it strong and successful. Parenting is a tough job, and maintaining close relationships and open communications helps to ensure parents and their children stay connected through all ages of their upbringing. Here are 10 simple tips for enhancing the bond between parent and child.
- I love you. Tell your child every day how much he/she means to you. Even on days that you disagree or argue, it is important to express your love.
- Bedtimes. We know that bedtime rituals help young children settle down for a good night's sleep, but developing a ritual as simple as reading a favorite book, being read to, or even just saying "good night" in a special way helps children understand that the are important and are memories they will keep throughout their life.
- Faith. Even if you don't spend every Sunday in church, teaching your child about your faith and beliefs helps them understand why you do things a certain way. Allow them to ask questions and answer them honestly.
- Let them help. Allowing children to help with various tasks and chores is a great opportunity to forge closer relationships. Small tasks give them a sense of value in the relationship and help them take ownership of their surroundings.
- Play. Dolls, ball, make believe and singing. It doesn't matter what you do with your child to share some silly time, just make sure you're involved in fun activities with your children on a regular basis.
- Eat together. Eating together is a great way to really talk and learn about each other. It sets the stage for the end of busy days and the beginning of quiet bedtime rituals.
- Choices. It's not easy letting your 5 year old go to the grocery store in mismatched clothing, but letting them make appropriate choices helps foster their need for independence and support when they make their own decisions.
- One on One time. Setting aside special time for your children creates an opportunity to celebrate your children individually. Even if it's just a walk around the block, giving your child a chance to be alone with you and talk to you will help them trust you for years to come when they need a helping hand or advice.
- Prioritize. Your children need to know that they are a priority in your life. Children notice when parents are stressed or feel like they aren't getting enough attention. You'll find that forgetting some of the small stuff and enjoying your family can be a great stress reliever.