Can't figure out your type
Most people have a type that they tend to go for, short, tall, dark haired, or light, athletic or academic, funny, or brooding, etc. So, what happens if you can't figure out your type? Most people who can't seem to figure out their type have a problem with relationships not lasting long. While it is great to like a little of everything, generally, your preferences will lead you to a certain type of person, both physically and mentally. So, if you do not know what that type is, it can be hard to find lasting relationships.
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In order to figure out your type, so that you can clarify for yourself what you want, what is important to you, and how that plays into relationships, consider the following questions:
On a Saturday afternoon, when you have nothing to do, how do you like to spend your time? Answers likes, "Go on a bike ride." Or "Hike a mountain." Might mean you like the outdoors type. If you answer, "Play video games" or "Watch a movie" it might indicate that you are into the tech type. You can see how your personal preferences would influence the type of person you would want to date. You probably won't want to date a real athletic person if your favorite thing to do is lay around reading books and watching television.
When you envision your dream person, what physical attributes do they have? Chances are you won't find someone with a perfect body, perfect teeth, perfect hair, and movie star eyes, etc. but you can get a general idea of what you like, curvy or slim, blonde or brunette, etc.
If you had to say which mattered most to you, would looks or personality win out? All of us want to say personality, as it makes us feel better about our selves. However, this is a question that is vital in figuring out your type. You can have it both, but which matters more? This will certainly impact your dating pool.
What kind of people do you naturally gravitate to? Who are your friends, and what are they like? Usually your type in dating is similar to your type in friendship. If you have funny, active friends, you will likely be more attracted to funny active dating prospects. If you prefer the bookish type of friends, then you will probably like bookish dating prospects.
You do not have to have a type, and most people do not fit in a specific type, but you do want to look for characteristics that you find are attractive. When people say they don't have a type, it usually means that they like specific things they like in a person (good sense of humor, can play sports, loves music, etc.), and most people with those characteristics do not fit a specific role or type category.
