Marriage relationships are hard enough. When children are added to the mix it can make or break a marriage. Children can be a point of stress or a point of joy, so it is important to be ready for them as a couple and as individuals before they are brought into the world so they can be the latter. Both partners in the marriage relationship wanting a child is the first thing on your checklist. Then you have to determine whether you and your spouse are healthy emotionally, physically and financially. Here are some suggestions to help you determine if your marriage relationship is ready for the added dynamic of a child yet. While this doesn't cover everything, the basics will get your started.
A child, particularly a baby, is hugely demanding. Once you become a mother or father, you are a parent for life. Children come with a no return policy, so know you are making a lifetime commitment with you take the step of introducing them to your family. Before you decide your marriage relationship is ready for children, assess whether it is truly emotionally stable or not. Divorce shatters children's lives no matter how old they are, so make sure you and your spouse are whole, emotionally stable in your relationship, and mentally fit to taking on the challenges of parenthood. You must be absolutely and without question committed to each other and to your marriage relationship. Children put stress on your relationship, so if there are any cracks that need mending, get it done before a baby comes on the scene. Having a child never fixes a broken relationship, so don't imagine it will bring your partner back to you.
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