It is possible to live in the same house with someone, be married to them, for years even, and barely know them. Often in marriages, too often by all accounts, people grow apart as they have children, take on new responsibilities, etc. It is easy to fall in to routines that involve perfunctory conversations, and occasional checking in sex, but that lack the real bonding and close knit feelings of not being able to live without the person. If you are spouses, but in many way strangers, you are not alone, but there are things you can do to change things, and improve your relationship. First you have to accept and acknowledge the problem exists, then work to fix it.