Concern Articles


Things to think about before you contemplate marriage

weddingband36821550.jpgLove is a wonderful thing, but it can also make you ignore or blind to potential problems. When you love someone enough to contemplate marrying them, it is important that you consider the following questions:

"Things to think about before you contemplate marriage" »

My kid's dad wants to be part of his life

fatherworking41835607.jpgThere are many families these days with parents who are divorced, or who never married. Often this leads to custody agreements where the child spends the majority of its time with one parent rather than the other. In some cases, a single parent, typically the mother will get full custody. The possible situations are endless. So, what do you do if you have been raising your child by yourself without the support or aid of, or interaction of the child's father, and suddenly they want to be part of their life? Do you let them? Do you tell them no? What is the best options?

"My kid's dad wants to be part of his life" »

Did I give up adventure for marriage?

wedding41814299.jpgDivorce rates around the country have escalated, each year the number seems to grow. More and more people are opting for non-traditional unions, rather than marriage. Why? What can you do to make sure your marriage lasts? What can you do to not doom yourself to a failed relationship? The most important thing you can do is keep your mind where it should be. When people start to think about what could have been. or what they may have done. or how their life would be different if. it usually leads to trouble.

"Did I give up adventure for marriage?" »

Dealing with a secretive spouse

lying36819210.jpgEveryone communicates differently. However, it can be difficult to be in a relationship if you are a sharer, and your spouse is not. Some people simply prefer to keep things to themselves, however, this can be misconstrued as being secretive. So, what do you do if you are in a relationship with a "secretive spouse"?

"Dealing with a secretive spouse" »

Can someone change?

rejecting63314693.jpgIn relationships, one of the major problems comes from expecting change from someone. People should never go into a relationship expecting people to change what they do, and how they do it. If you do, chances are you will be unhappy in the long run. This is not to say that people can't change, but they often won't.

"Can someone change?" »

Taking risks in relationships

handshake32145701.jpgRisks in relationships are something most people think they should avoid. Just like investments, if you want to walk away happy, you should figure out your risk tolerance and stick with it. Right? Wrong, relationships are not investments, at least not monetary investments. However, like investments, if you don't take some risk, you have little or no chance of any kind of pay off.

"Taking risks in relationships" »

Resentment in relationships

womanangryatphone35813101.jpgThere is often a lot of resentment in relationships, and this can lead to unhealthy relationships that end in failure, frustration, etc. So, what can you do to solve problems with resentment in relationships? Consider the following:

"Resentment in relationships" »

Pain and love

woman30387627.jpgWhen someone you love treats you poorly, it stings. In fact, it has a sting to it you don't find in other situations, especially if the poor treatment was unwarranted. For example, if you are walking down the street, and you step on someone's toe, and they call you a name, you might feel bad, but you aren't going to take it to heart, or wonder if you really are what they said. However, if someone you love and respect were to call you that same name, you might question yourself some.

"Pain and love" »

Loving someone you can't get along with

friends19138819.jpgThere are times in your life when you fall in love with someone, but it is someone you just can't get along with. You know you love them, and you know you want to be with them, but you can't be around them without fighting, without arguing, without being at one another's throats. So, what do you do when you love someone you can't get along with? And, how do you make a relationship work?

"Loving someone you can't get along with" »

Is being rejected really a good thing?

rejecting63314693.jpgBeing rejected is not a good thing. At least that is the popular sentiment. It does not feel good, and can leave you wondering what you did wrong, or why someone may not be interested in you. However, despite the personal blow to your pride, there are some real positive sides to being rejected.

"Is being rejected really a good thing?" »

Ignoring problems doesn't keep relationships strong

manrelaxingatdesk30846571.jpgEveryone has had a relationship with someone, a parent, a lover, a neighbor, a friend. And, everyone is familiar with the fact that there can be problems in relationships. What most people do not realize is that by ignoring problems or feelings, etc. you are not preserving the relationship, but ruining it. The most common example of this is when two people are friends, and one starts to like the other person.

"Ignoring problems doesn't keep relationships strong" »

I feel responsible for my friend's suicide attempt

stressedwoman16009389.jpgIt can be difficult to have friends with emotional instability. It is not ever easy to have a friend who is in a dark place. However, it is critical to remember that your friend is responsible for his or her own choices, and you have no control over them. What you do may effect their moods, etc. but when it comes down to it, their choices are THEIRS. They can't make decisions for you any more than you can make decisions for them.

"I feel responsible for my friend's suicide attempt" »

I am dating my superior at work

manandwomanatendofhall32810136.jpgIt can be really intimidating to date your superior at work. It is difficult to know what the best choice is. Sometimes you really love the person, or feel like you could have a lot of potential with them. However, when the choice is between your heart and your career, it is not always an easy decision. So, what are the factors you should be considering when determining how to go about dating, or not dating your superior at work.

"I am dating my superior at work" »

He doesn't call

teen39173427.jpgIf you go out with someone, have a great time, and they say they will call, then they don't, what can you do? How do you feel? Do you take them at their word and make an effort, or do you take a hint, and move forward? It can be frustrating to have a great time, and get excited about someone, and then get the brush off. You can't help but ask yourself if they maybe lost your number, or just got busy. So, what can you do?

"He doesn't call" »

Army wives

friends30718454.jpgWhen you are an army wife, your relationship can be a difficult one to deal with. You almost always come second to the nation, to the higher-ranking officers, to wars, etc. The fact is, being an army wife is as hard on a relationship as infidelity. So, what can you do to make your relationship work? Consider the following:

"Army wives" »

Feeling neglected

game19151472-1.jpgNeglect is a far more common disease in relationships than most realize. When we neglect to show gratitude, when we neglect to build up our partner, when we neglect to verbalize love, when we neglect to spend time with our partner, etc. it can be extremely damaging to the relationship. If you are feeling neglected, it is critical to do something about it, as feelings of neglect turn to feelings of resentment and hatred, which can poison and ruin a relationship quickly.

"Feeling neglected" »

Dump a jerk!

rejecting63314693.jpgIt is always easier to see when a friend is dating a jerk than when you are. No one wants to admit that they made a mistake when choosing who they like or love, but dating a jerk is not a good idea, the following are some tips for recognizing your folly, and dumping that jerk.

"Dump a jerk!" »

Bad friends lead to bad choices

unsure19166659.jpgThe friends you hang out with will influence the choices that you make. Often bad friends lead to bad choices. So, how can you have friends who do not have the same values and morals as you, and still keep your own morals and values? How can you be around people making poor choices, and still make good ones yourself?

"Bad friends lead to bad choices" »

Wish we were closer

unsure19166659.jpgIn some relationships you just can't seem to get past the superficial stuff and get closer. If you wish you were closer to someone in your life, there are things you can do. Of course, all relationships are two sided, but unless you are making the steps on your side of the equation, it won't matter much what they are doing. Consider the following:

"Wish we were closer" »

When you want to want it, but you don't

concernedman19185284.jpgIn intimate relationships sex can often be the source of a lot of problems. It is not an easy thing to talk about, and is especially difficult to talk about when you simply do not feel a sexual desire for your partner. If you want to want it, but find that you just don't, consider the following:

"When you want to want it, but you don't" »

Love yourself more than me

engagement31095490.jpgHave you ever been a relationship where it seemed like the person loved himself or herself more than they love you? This is not uncommon. People are, in general, selfish beings and want to do what is best for them, without a lot of thought to what is best for those around them. If they are hungry, they want to eat, if they are tired, they want to sleep. If they need new clothes, they want to use money to buy them, rather than something else. The list goes on. If you find yourself in a relationship where selfishness seems to be the defining characteristic, consider the following:


"Love yourself more than me" »

Why relationships have boundaries

togetherness19167404.jpgEvery relationship has it's limitations. There are certain things you know you can do and certain things you know you cannot. Boundaries are necessary in a relationship as they do help you to maintain a stronger love life and connection. You won't nag one another or cross the line that can put your lover over the edge. You need to sit down and talk about a few things that are "absolutely not's" and "that's fine" as it allows you to both be yourselves and to avoid having to deal with annoyances and frustrating discussions with your partner. Having boundaries also helps to keep you in check as you won't become obsessive or aggressive. You both deserve to have personal freedom and you need to have a certain level of respect for one another if you want to make the relationship work successfully.

"Why relationships have boundaries" »

How to deal with a lack of empathy

unsure19166659.jpgThere are so many emotions and things that go into a relationship. If there is lack of empathy, it makes it hard to love the other person and it makes it hard to even offer them respect at times. Many marriages and long term relationships end because of lack of empathy that occurs over time. It is a problem that needs to be addressed in relationships and it comes down to having respect and true love for the other person. Here are some things you need to understand about lack of empathy.

"How to deal with a lack of empathy" »

Be careful about rushing into a relationship

lipstick31965302.jpgAs you start out a new relationship, there are a lot of things you need to be careful about because you can rush into it. This can cause you to ruin any chance you had to get started with the relationship correctly and you won't be able to make it last as the other person can get scared off or they may smell your desperation to be in a relationship. There is a certain level of want and desire in any relationship but you need to understand that while you may crave this time with the other person, they are not in the same place that you are. They might want to take it slow and continue dating other people for a little while. Do not take offense to this because they usually just need some time to figure out who they are and that they are making a good decision by jumping into a relationship.

"Be careful about rushing into a relationship" »

My friend is making poor choices

walking41850447.jpgWhen your friends make poor choices, and feel like they are just doing their thing, you are faced with a tough situation. It can be hard to know when to step in and be a friend, or when to step back, and let them make their own choices.

"My friend is making poor choices" »

When you just can't please them

onlinedating16468290.jpgSometimes you are in a relationship with someone, whether it is a friendship, a romantic relationship, a parent-child, sibling, or some other kind of relationship where you just can't seem to please them. No matter what you do it is not good enough. So, what should you do to change the situation so you are not left feeling unwanted and unloved despite your best efforts?

"When you just can't please them" »

Theft in relationships

clip71731932.jpgRelationships are always going to be somewhat complex. There are going to be things that upset the balance of things, cause fights, problems, and upsets. There are also going to be the times when things are going really well. So, what do you do when you experience theft in your relationships? Consider the following:

"Theft in relationships" »

Sexual abuse in the family

trustrock19045278.jpgWhen families experience something like sexual abuse, it can be an extremely difficult situation. A male member, either the father or a brother, perpetrates most sexual abuse in families. Because it is family, many of the victims of sexual abuse are afraid to blow the whistle. They do not want to be the reason their family is torn apart, or their father goes to prison. No matter how poor the logic is, as it is the fault of the perpetrator, not the victim, this is the common problem.

"Sexual abuse in the family" »

Relatives that smoke

cigarette63306459.jpgEveryone knows that smoking is bad for the lungs, yatta yatta, but unfortunately that does not stop people from smoking. While it is a personal choice, it can affect others beyond yourself. The dangers of second-hand smoke are nearly as bad, and in some cases worse than actual smoking. This can pose a problem for someone who has relatives that smoke, especially if they have children, or you do. The concern for your children's well-being, as well as your own can be very real. So, if your relatives smoke, and invite you to come over, or come to your house frequently, what can you do?

"Relatives that smoke" »

Racist remarks in relationships

womanshusing10041531.jpgWhen you are in a relationship you tend to go one of two ways: you either hold back because you want to impress, and keep things good, or you say too much because you feel comfortable with the person. However, regardless of what way you go, what happens with the person you are in a relationship with makes a racist remark? Consider the following:

"Racist remarks in relationships" »

Nudity in relationships

nailbiting19278752.jpgWhen you are in a relationship with someone, you get comfortable. At first you get all ready, and you do not see each other without makeup, and fancy clothes, etc. You pretend that you never fart, or talk with your mouth full, etc. But after a while you do not mind kissing with morning breath, having them walk in while you pee on the toilet, and that sort of thing. As you get more comfortable with someone you start to wear fewer articles of clothing. Some people have no problem at all walking around the house completely naked, or just in their underwear. But, what happens if the other person in the relationship is not comfortable with this? Most people do not mind nudity when intimacy is involved, and may not mind the occasional lounge around the house in your boxers or panties, but if you are always in a state of undress, it can be a rather uncomfortable situation. The following are some tips on how to tell your significant other that you want them to put their clothes on:

"Nudity in relationships" »

Money in family

manwithmoneyfan34926870.jpgMoney has a way of causing problems in families. It brings out the bad and good in people. It either shows generosity, or stinginess. It can lead to resentment, or gratitude. Money in families has more potential for problems than it should. The following are a few examples of how it can be problematic, and how to avoid money problems in your family.

"Money in family" »

Mentally challenged friends

friends30742814.jpgDuring our lifetime we get to meet and experience knowing people from all walks of life. This can be a great way to diversify, and enjoy a unique life, with a good variety of friends. Sometimes we met people who suffer from a mental disability, such as mental retardation. Being friends with people who are mentally challenged can be very fulfilling, even if it is a little difficult. Consider the following:

"Mentally challenged friends" »

Loaning money to family

money30329551.jpgLoaning money to family spells trouble. The fact is, most people agree that while you may have a decent experience with loaning money to family, it is really never a good idea. Money has the power to get in the way of good relationships. It can cause resentment if it is not paid back. It can cause guilt that leads to isolating yourself because you aren't paying someone back, etc. So, with that said, the following are a few rules for loaning money to family.

"Loaning money to family" »

Dating a bad driver

teenrelationship41861339.jpgDating is a lot of fun, but sometimes it can be hard to deal with some of the characteristics of the person you are dating. For example, if someone you are dating is a bad driver, it can be a scary thought to go on a date with them. So, if you really like them, what can you do?

"Dating a bad driver" »

Being used by friends

friends19138819.jpgEveryone has a friend or two that seems to be more of a convenient friend than a true friend. However, sometimes it is hard to know what to do about it. This is especially difficult if you feel like these friends use you. Whether they use you for rides, drinks, or for something to do when no one else can, it is never fun to feel used, especially by a friend. The following is a look at what to do.

"Being used by friends" »

Abusive boyfriends

ill19115072.jpgSometimes in relationships there is abuse. The reasons for abuse are numerous, but no matter the reason, no one should abuse, or put up with abuse in a relationship. However, this is far easier said than done. The following is a look at the kinds of abuse most common in relationships, and what you should do if you have an abusive boyfriend:

"Abusive boyfriends" »

Absentee fathers

trustrock19045278.jpgThere are many instances of kids growing up without a father. Sometimes it is due to divorce. Sometimes it is a result of death. Sometimes it is a result of neither, the father is just gone all of the time, or does not act like a father. Having an absentee father can be extremely difficult on a child. They may blame themselves for their father being gone, or worry that they have some share in the responsibility of it. The following is a look at how to handle having an absentee father:

"Absentee fathers" »

Why friends sometimes get possessive

twobusinesswomen23306487.jpgMost of the time if you have friends who get possessive the reason behind it is they are insecure in their relationships. When your friends get possessive it can mean that they feel like they are losing control, so what they do in response to that is they take control of the situation, which can be your relationship. Dealing with a possessive friend no matter what their reason for being possessive is can be rough; it is bound to stretch your patience. Luckily, there are a few things that you can do to help deal with your possessive friend before your friendship is ruined.

"Why friends sometimes get possessive" »

When your friends are too controlling

peoplegesturing7622291.jpgWhen your friends are too controlling you, do not have very many options. Either you can quit being friends with them or you can learn to deal with their controlling ways. If you decide to deal with their controlling behavior there are some things that you can do to make it easier.

"When your friends are too controlling" »

When your family relationships are threatened due to resentment

womanangryatphone35813101.jpgWhen it comes to resentment that you hold towards other people or that other people hold toward us, there are some main causes of resentment. The main causes of resentment always revolve around our ego and our minds attempt to protect ourselves from being hurt. Resentment relates to the ego because when our ego gets hurt the first thing we think about is defending ourselves to help preserve ourselves. Resentment always becomes a bigger problem than we expected, especially when it starts to threaten your family relationships.

"When your family relationships are threatened due to resentment" »

The Work Love Triangle

lawyer37472724.jpgRelationships in the workplace can disrupt the flow of work. If you just broke up with that guy from two rows over, there's likely to be some drama. It's better if you keep your workplace relationships strictly professional. You can be friends with people, but don't take it beyond friendship. Here's how to keep work relationships on a business level:

"The Work Love Triangle" »

Sibling Rivalry Burdens

Littlegirls30461990.jpgThe children have erupted into another fight. Keep your cool. Sibling rivalry is quite common and usually results in fights. As long as your kids are generally happy and have a good relationship with each other, you have nothing to worry about. However, if sibling rivalry in your home is causing continuous unhappiness for one or more of your children, there are some things you can do about it. Rivalry, especially among siblings is caused by low self-esteem.

"Sibling Rivalry Burdens" »

How to know if your friendships will last

discussion8075165.jpgMost people have friends that they have lost touch with throughout the years. At the same time, you probably also have friends who have been your friends for a long time.

What's the difference between friendships that last and those that fade with time? There are a number of factors that influence whether or not your friendship will last, but the most important is the effort you and your friends put into your friendship.

"How to know if your friendships will last" »

How to handle pushy in-laws

mencommunicating19220419.jpgOnce you and your spouse have gotten married, you are going to need to learn how to deal with your in-laws. In most cases, in-laws are fine and can be easily handled until a grandchild appears. Problems with pushy in-laws can begin when you are pregnant or they can start after the baby is born. For example, you might find yourself defending future decisions about putting your child into daycare or whether it is best to breast or bottle feed. If you are experiencing these kinds of problems now, you can only imagine what is going to happen once the baby is born. The problem is that if you ignore the behaviors of pushy in-laws while you are pregnant and wait to deal with the problem until later, you will find that the problem quickly got out of hand. The best thing you can do with pushy in-laws is to deal with the problem as soon as it presents itself.

"How to handle pushy in-laws" »

How to discuss things that irritate you in a relationship

unsure19166659.jpgYou've probably heard that communication is one of the most important ways to keep a relationship happy and successful.

Proper communication is essential for a successful relationship. Instead of addressing the issue at hand, poor communicators skirt around it, or avoid letting their spouse know that they are upset or unsatisfied. Problems can't be solved if they aren't first addressed--your spouse can't read your mind, so make sure you learn to communicate by telling your spouse the things in your marriage you are not happy with.

"How to discuss things that irritate you in a relationship" »

How to deal with a manipulative sibling

friends30731255.jpgManipulative siblings are after one thing, they seek to control everything around them. If you have a manipulative sibling, you need to learn how to deal with them right away because any relationship that involves manipulation is headed for trouble. Your mental and emotional health depends on you recognizing and dealing with a manipulative sibling.

"How to deal with a manipulative sibling" »

How involved should your in-laws be in your marriage?

trustrock19045278.jpgIt is often said that when you get married, you marry a family, not just a person. For some couples, this is more true than with others and they find themselves dealing with in-laws who want to be involved with every aspect of their lives.

"How involved should your in-laws be in your marriage?" »

Helping family members after a death in the family

togetherness19167404.jpgAfter a loved one dies, it can be very hard for people to deal with their death. Many people rely heavily on family members to help them get through the death of a loved one. If you plan to help family members, deal with the death of a loved one the first thing that you need to be aware of is that people grieve in different ways, which can be normally and abnormally. Family members who have just recently lost a loved one are going to require a lot of support. Once the funeral and burial has been completed, you are going to need to focus on helping family members deal with the loss.

"Helping family members after a death in the family" »

Forgive and forget, is it possible?

concernedman19185284.jpgForgiving and forgetting what somebody has done to you is not always possible to do. The reason for this is that it is often hard for us to forget what somebody has done to hurt us, but that does not mean that we cannot forgive them for what they have done. Rather than trying to forgive and forget what people have done to you, the best you can do is learn to forgive so you can move on with your life.

"Forgive and forget, is it possible?" »

Family relationships get strained during the holidays

gifts36406440.jpgHolidays are a great time to spend with family. They provide you with a chance to bond with your family, but at the same time, holidays can put a lot of strain on family relationships. One of the main reasons that so much stress is put on family relationships during the holidays is that conflicts can come up about whom you should go see or where to go. The best thing that you can do is to learn how to deal with the strain placed on your family relationships during the holidays.

"Family relationships get strained during the holidays" »

Dealing with drugs and alcohol in families

pills19296896.jpgDrug and alcohol addiction is something that more families have to deal with. The biggest problem that most families face when it comes to dealing with addiction is that it is something that is not spoken about because people see no clear way to solve the problem and they are ashamed that a family member has a problem. If you simply sit back and do nothing for somebody in your family who is an addict, that person is going to end up becoming lost to everybody. Luckily, there are things that you can do to deal with an addict in your family.

"Dealing with drugs and alcohol in families" »

Wishy washy friend

friends19138819.jpgQuestion: I have a friend who has been part of my life for a little over 6 years. We have a lot of fun when we hang out, but he seems to only hang out with me if nothing better is going on. He will never commit to anything. If I call and invite him to do something his standard response is, "That sounds fun, I will let you know." I feel like he is telling me that if nothing better comes up he will be there. I am sick of feeling like I am his last choice. Should I drop him as a friend, or tell him how I feel and hope he changes?

"Wishy washy friend" »

Unplanned pregnancy

urgentstamp19152884.jpgQuestions: My boyfriend and I got pregnant on accident, and now it is causing a lot of strain in our relationship. We are both really against abortion, and want to keep the baby, but we aren't sure we are ready. My boyfriend is especially concerned about the financial aspect of having a baby. But I am more concerned about what is going to happen when it is actually here. We already are fighting about how to handle it, so how are we going to handle raising it?

"Unplanned pregnancy" »

Too friendly co-workers?

manwithdatebook23291499.jpgQuestion: My wife is really good friends with some of the people she works with. I want to encourage her to have friends at her office, but sometimes it makes me uncomfortable how friendly they are. She goes to lunch with one of the guys from her office several times a week, sometimes in a group, sometimes just the two of them. In addition, they often talk on the phone. Even though it is always about work, I can't help but wish they weren't quite so close. Am I over-reacting?

"Too friendly co-workers?" »

Are we too different?

teens41861269.jpgQuestion: My boyfriend and I connect really well physically, but on every other plane we seem to be in different worlds. I love to sit home and read, and he loves to hit the clubs. I am an intellectual, and he prefers things like basketball, and comedy shows. We have really different interests, and it seems like the time we spend together is all about physical intimacy. I really like him, but we just seem so different, can we make this relationship work?

"Are we too different?" »

Stalking ex-boyfriend

woman30387627.jpgQuestion: I keep running into my ex, and I think he may be stalking me. I see him everywhere. It seems like any time I leave my house I see him. At first I thought it was a coincidence, but now I don't think so. A few times I have seen him, and he has tried to hide, or avoid me. I also keep getting blocked number phone calls, with no answer. I am not sure if I should be worried. What should I do?

"Stalking ex-boyfriend" »

Odor Alert!

rejecting63314693.jpgQuestion: My husband has terrible BO. He does not have poor hygiene, he showers every day, and even wears deodorant, but he sweats a lot, and stinks. I think he has gotten used to it though because he doesn't even notice. The other day he asked me why I never want to do anything with friends anymore, and I was too embarrassed to tell him it is because of his odor. He works from home, so I can't hope a co-worker will clue him in. How can I let him know how much he stinks without hurting his feelings?

"Odor Alert!" »

My kids are ruining my relationship

walking63275288.jpgQuestion: My kids are getting in the way of my relationship with my spouse. We are always stressed out because of all the stuff we have to do with the kids. At night, after we fight with the kids to go to bed, we don't want to be around each other, we just want alone time. I love my kids, but I think they are ruining my marital relationship. What do I do?

"My kids are ruining my relationship" »

My friend the mooch

walletwithmoney8252668.jpgQuestion: My friend is a really thoughtful person, but she is also a huge mooch, and it is so annoying. She is constantly "forgetting her wallet" or saying that she "will get me next time". Sometimes we go out to eat, and she doesn't order, and then she wants to take my leftovers home, or asks for bites from everyone. She never chips in for gas. We rent movies a lot, and she never pays to rent it, and everyone usually brings snacks, but she never contributes. I enjoy her company, but I am sick of always footing the bill. It isn't just money. She always wants to borrow my clothes, and she forgets to return them. How can I get her to stop mooching?

"My friend the mooch" »

My boss wants me to do more than work

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Question: I think my boss may be hitting on me. He is a naturally friendly person, but sometimes his friendliness becomes slightly uncomfortable to me. He stops by my desk a lot just to chat, and he has asked me several times if I am happy in my marriage. I am friendly back, but have never encouraged his advances. I worry though that if I call him out on it, or reject him outright, I may get fired, demoted, or not be promoted when I should. It is a family run company, so there is no one I can go to about this that will be willing to hear about it. What should I do?

"My boss wants me to do more than work" »

Missed my birthday

party31933648.jpgQuestion: This year I got really into birthdays. So, I made a special point of doing something for each of my friend's for their birthday. I would take them to breakfast, or throw a surprise party for them, or ship them a gift if I lived too far away to see them, etc. When my birthday rolled around I expected my friends to call or text, or send cards or gifts. However, ALL of my friends missed my birthday. Not one of them called me, or did anything for me for my birthday. I didn't do stuff for them so that they would do stuff for me, but I still expected something, a call at the least. Now I am mad, and my friends can tell, but they think I am overreacting. Am I?

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Lazy husband

man30363439.jpgQuestion: I have been married 7 years. I have 3 kids, and I work full time. I am going to school one night a week to try and finish my degree. My husband used to work with his dad, but had a fight with him, so now he pretty much stays home. Since I have so much on my plate, we decided that he would not look for another job, but instead would take care of the house stuff. The problem is, he doesn't do it. Sure, he is home with the kids, but he does not feed them, or clean up after them, do laundry, dishes, or anything else. When I get home from work, I always have to feed the family, clean up the house, help the kids with homework, and then do my own homework. I am so sick of having to do everything. I want my husband to step up and do something. How can I encourage him to not be so lazy?

"Lazy husband" »

I'm worried about my brother

womanwriting19115187.jpgQuestion: I live across the country from my family, and I see them on holidays and for a few weeks each summer. I am not that involved with them, because of distance, but last time I was home I noticed my brother seemed like he was high. His eyes were red, and he smelled like pot. During my stay he seemed to have real mood swings. When I mentioned it to my mom, she said I was imagining things. I blew it off, but then last time I called he answered and seemed really out of it. Am I over-reacting, or should I be concerned?

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I'd rather not get an STD

dice9859792.jpgQuestion: I have been dating this girl for about 6 months, I love her, and we have recently decided that we should become intimate. However, before we did, she told me that she has had several STDs and some of them may still be contagious. I don't want to judge her, but I have always been careful about who I sleep with, and it bothers me that she has not been. I am not sure if this is something I can get past. I would rather not get an STD. Am I being too shallow?

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Flirty father-in-law

oldermanpointing30841371.jpgQuestion: I have been married for just over two years now, and my in-laws are starting to become a problem. I do not have the typical problem though. It is not my mother in law that is the problem, it is my father in law. He is great, but he is really touchy feely. He is always hugging me, putting his arms around me, and even kissing my face. I am glad he accepts me, but it makes me uncomfortable. What should I do?

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Confused relationship

teenrelationship41861339.jpgQuestion: I am really confused by what my relationship means. I am friends with this girl, but we always hold hands when we are out together, and we cuddle while we watch movies. We talk on the phone every day and night, and we never make plans without running it past each other first, but we have never kissed, and don't refer to each other as our significant others. What are we?

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Can't find love

womanonphone30388715.jpgQuestion: I have no success when it comes to relationships. I am not homely. I know I am no super-model, but I am attractive. I have never had a problem getting asked out on that first date, but rarely get asked on a second. I have a strong personality, and have an opinion, and I am afraid that no one will accept me for me. I am starting to think I should hide who I am, and act like a ninny so that someone will like me. I really want to find love, but don't know how. Why can't I find love?

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Bad parent sister

woman30387627.jpgQuestion: My sister is a terrible parent. She is a wonderful person, but when it comes to taking care of her children she is remiss. I frequently visit and find them in diapers that are way too full, hanging down between their legs, and she doesn't seem to notice. They are often still in their pajamas in the late afternoon. She rarely fixes them sit down meals, rather they fill up on sugary snacks, and drink a lot of juice and soda pop. Her kids are way behind socially and developmentally. I worry about how they will do when they are in school. I think my sister would be very offended if I talked to her about it. I don't want to judge, but her kids need help. They are always filthy, and underfed. The television is their babysitter. Should I talk to her, or notify family services anonymously?

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Are my kids smart enough?

friends26651528.jpgQuestion: My sister in law is my best friend, and we spend a lot of time together. However, we both have a child that is the same age, and gender. It can be a problem. She is constantly telling me how much smarter, athletic, and funny her kid is. It is always a comparison. Her child was potty trained before mine, and I had to hear about it every day. I really like her, but I am sick of the competition between us when it comes to our kids. I try to just smile and say, "Yes your child is great." But it never stops. What do I do?

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What you can do to improve your marriage

holdinghands41861325.jpgEven though we might get mad or upset with our spouses that doesn't mean that, we no longer love our spouses. What many of us do not realize is that a marriage is a relationship that needs to be constantly worked on, whether it is improving communication or making a romantic gesture. Just because you are married that does not mean that your life is over or that you need to be stuck in a rut. We need to do everything that we can to improve our marriage, which the best part is that working on improving your marriage doesn't take much time or effort, all it takes is a little bit of thought and a lot of sincerity.

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Ways to think the best about your spouse

embrace19167388.jpgWhile every marriage is going to have its difficulties one of the best ways to get through those rough patches is to have a good relationship with your spouse. Part of having a good relationship with your spouse is thinking of your spouse in the best possible light. This can help your relationship because it can stop you from saying something that you might regret, which can help you to save your marriage.

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Resolving conflicts in the home

fatherson41825765.jpgNo relationship is without conflict. The way in which we handle these conflicts will be the defining characteristics of our personalities. Some marriages will endure harder challenges and this causes them to grow strong together or it forces them apart. Then there are the families that have large conflicts happen due to children moving from tweens to teens. No matter what, conflict is inevitable and we all need to face it sooner or later.

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How to be a great friend

drinks60514724.jpgBeing a great friend is something that can be easy or hard, it all depends on how you look at it. However, the one thing that you need to keep in mind is that being a great friend is not something that you can do when you feel like it. In order to be a great friend you are going to have to be willing to sacrifice things for your friends. You can't be a great friend if you are only a part-time friend, being a great friend requires you being there full time.

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Finding someone to talk to about your marriage

interview26236689.jpgMany people who have talked to a marriage counselor have found that this is a great thing to do if their marriage is in trouble. The reason that so many people have found this helpful is because a marriage counselor can provide you with a lot of support and motivation, which can help to save your relationship. Family and friends can also provide you with support, but they cannot guide you through things like those that a marriage counselor can because they are not considered a neutral party. A marriage counselor can help guide you through emotional problems, motivational issues, and finding solutions for your problems that are going on in your relationship.

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How to get revenge in relationships

mantiedup28718953.jpgSometimes a relationship just goes bad. However, other times someone is to blame for it. When this is the case, the partner who is not to blame may want some retribution for the heartache, pain, and embarrassment they suffered because of the other person's actions. So, how can they get revenge?

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Domestic violence

missingpuzzlepiece19378437.jpgDomestic violence in relationships is a very serious problem, and one that is often difficult to not just identify, but also to stop. Many of the victims believe they deserve the abuse, and are unwilling to "betray" their abusers or turn them in. Domestic abuse often goes hand in hand with emotional abuse.

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What to do when your best friend starts changing for the worst

concernedman19185284.jpgMaking and keeping friends is a valuable life skill. Children learn it from the earliest ages and yet as adults it is a forgotten art. Rarely do we think about how much work it takes to cultivate new friendships and face all the challenges that go along with building the relationships. If you were to ask the best way to make and keep a friend, the rules can be keep short and simple:

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