Kids generally come one at a time, and this means if you have a large family that often times you will have some teenagers, and some younger, such as pre-teen, or even toddler. This is fun, adds spice to life, makes your home life interesting, etc. However, it also means that your children have different interests, and different ideas of fun. So, this often leads to family relationships being strained, or minimal. So, the question becomes, how can you help your teens, who would rather spend time with friends, and find their younger siblings totally annoying, relate to their younger siblings? This is a great question, and answer lies in the roots of the problem. It is hard to relate to someone who you do not know well. Just because they live in the same house, have the same parents, etc. does not mean they know each other well. So, to help your teen better relate to younger siblings, do the following:
Let them spend some time together one on one, where the older sibling takes responsibility, like babysitting, but without authority, just responsibility. It is a good idea to help your teen recognize the emotional, physical, and other needs of their younger siblings so that they stop seeing them as an annoyance, and start seeing them as a human with feelings. So, do not make them the babysitter, as this often leads to resentment, but put them in charge of something, such as getting them dinner, helping them get their teeth brushed and PJ's on each night. Giving your teen a responsibility in the life of their younger sibling essentially forces them to take part in their existence, and as a result, leads to bonds being formed, even if not initially.
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