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Keep in touch with long lost friends can be extremely difficult unless you keep really good tabs on one another through all the moves. Fortunately there are several different ways to keep in touch with old friends these days. Here are some tips for catching up with old friends and using the internet to do so.

Use the internet
Using the internet is probably the best way to keep in touch with old and long lost friends. Technology has become an increasingly popular way to find long lost friends and keep in touch with the ones you already have. You may already be aware of some of the things the internet has to offer but just incase, here are some ideas on how to keep in touch via your computer and the internet:

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When you come across someone that things really click with and you just seem to get along, you know that you've come across one of those people that will be a good friend for a long time. Good friends are there through thick and thin, and can be counted on to always be there when you need them; whether in person or over the phone. So let's take about qualities of a good friend, what are they? If you don't have great judgment then look for these qualities in the individuals you associate with to find someone is truly a good friend.

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There are probably not many things that are worse than finding and having actual proof that your friends spouse is cheating on them. Marriage is hard enough right, so if you happen to be the only person who knows that this is going on then how do you tell your friend their spouse is cheating and still remain friends?

This is a sticky subject because after all this is someone's marriage and their spouse. Before you think of ways to tell them you have to first ask yourself if you're even good enough friends that they'll believe you or will it just ruin your friendship. And the second thing you want to think about is that you are absolutely one hundred percent sure that the spouse is cheating; if it's just a rumor or you have no actual proof then it might be better not to say anything yet because your friend is more likely to side with their spouse even if it is true. If this is a good friend and you are sure that the spouse is cheating then here are some ideas on how to tell your friend their spouse is cheating and still remain friends.

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This can be a somewhat touchy subject to people as usually most are either on the "pro" side of being friends with the opposite gender after marriage, or they're on the "con" side. There is no in between for most, so is it actually possible to stay friends with the opposite gender after you are married, or is it a myth? Will all those friends you have through high school or college just be forgotten after you say your wedding vows. If you're looking for some possible way to still have a relationship with others of the opposite sex after you are married then here are some qualities you must possess and must be present in your marriage in order to do so.

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There nothing worse than planning a great night out with your friends when your mom reminds you that there's a family get together or party that has been planned for weeks that you're supposed to be at. This is probably one of the biggest tensions builders between teens and parents today. The battle over wanting to spend time with their friends' more than spending time with their family. And the funny things is that it really is a never ending battle. The older you get the more you feel like you have to go to those family things that might not be so fun, but everyone expects you to be there. So how much time should you spend with your friends versus your family? There may not be a perfect answer out there, but here are some tips on helping to find a good balance between them both.

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There nothing worse than planning a great night out with your friends when your mom reminds you that there's a family get together or party that has been planned for weeks that you're supposed to be at. This is probably one of the biggest tensions builders between teens and parents today. The battle over wanting to spend time with their friends' more than spending time with their family. And the funny things is that it really is a never ending battle. The older you get the more you feel like you have to go to those family things that might not be so fun, but everyone expects you to be there. So how much time should you spend with your friends versus your family? There may not be a perfect answer out there, but here are some tips on helping to find a good balance between them both.

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You find a great friend and so you want to make your friendship last longer. Everyone wants lasting friendships. There are some tips you can use for making your friendships last longer. Here are five great tips for making your friendships last longer.

1. Talk with your friends. Communicating with your friends will help your friendships to grow and become better and therefore last longer. The reason communication is so very important to a friendship is because each person involved can clearly understand the other person. Having a friend understand what you like, dislike, want to do in life and why you feel certain ways will bind the two of you and form a friendship that will last longer.

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Having a stable and rewarding friendship will most likely require some sacrifices. Making sacrifices for your friends doesn't have to mean sacrificing your total self. Making sacrifices for your friends will also give you the satisfaction of having helped out when needed. When you are making sacrifices for your friends, you are improving your friendship and yourself as a person in humanity.

By making sacrifices for your friends, it doesn't mean that you have to sacrifice your total self. Making sacrifices for your friends will mean that there will be times that you will need to put your friends needs in font of yours. This can most assuredly strengthen your friendship.

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Friendship is a great thing to have. Some friendships are not the easiest to have because you may feel you have to sacrifice yourself for the friendship. How to not sacrifice yourself for friendship will entail you to be strong and know your own worth as a person. Many friends will take advantage of your friendship causing you to sacrifice yourself.

To not sacrifice yourself for a friendship doesn't mean you need to not be a good friend. A good friend will actually make a friendship be a give and take relationship. There is no need for one friend to sacrifice themselves and the other friend to do all the taking.

One way for you to not sacrifice yourself for friendship is to learn to say no. Some friends will continually ask you for favors, help and all sorts of things. Having your friends asking doesn't mean that you have to say yes. There are times that you can say no and your friendship can still be intact. How to not sacrifice yourself for friendship is to know that you can say no and your friend can ask someone else for the favor.

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Most people have to work and working in a business where you have no friends is not a fun place to work. So you want to make friends. When you make business friendships sometimes there is a connection and you want to know how to make the business friendship become a lasting friendship. This can sometimes become tricky especially if you make friends with someone that is higher up the business ladder than you are.

But there are ways how business friendships can become lasting friendships. The first thing to do is make sure your friend feels the same way. There are some people in the business world that want business friends at the business only, They do not want anything to do with their business friendships after they go home.

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Virtually everyone has a few friends who they have lost contact with over the years. When it comes to dealing with your own life and family, it can be easy to neglect your existing friendships, which can eventually lead to you slowly growing apart.

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Friendship can be one of the strongest relationships in a person's life. Friendship has many different levels and those levels can vary depending on the way a person views a friendship. Some people may treasure friendship and work very hard to keep their friendships healthy, while other people may view friendship as a casual relationship that does not hold much meaning. When people with different views of friendship try to be friends with each other, one person could feel like the friendship is one sided. Here is what to if a friendship feels one sided.

Evaluate the Friendship

If a friendship feels one sided, the first thing a person should do is evaluate the friendship. They should consider what could be keeping the other person in the friendship from being involved. Is the other person working, have a family, have other groups of friends, etc? This evaluation could reveal why a relationship feels one sided.

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Most people make friends in many different places. Friends come from work, school, church, and can even be from the neighborhood a person grew up in. Before someone realizes it, they may have a very diverse group of friends. This is actually very healthy, but can also be the source of problems when it comes time to get together with these friends. Problems can arise when a person tries to include several of their friends in a party or even just during a small get-together. This can cause a lot of stress on the host or hostess who is just trying to have a nice time. Here are a few tips to help with this nerve-racking scenario.

Find activities that everyone likes

When a person decides to get a group of friends together for a party or a get-together it can be very helpful to find an activity that most of the members of the group like to do. This will help to keep everyone involved, happy, and focused on the activity instead of the fact that they don't know each other very well, or that they feel uncomfortable around the other people for any reason. As a person gets to know their friends, they can make mental notes about what activities each person likes to do. Then when it comes time to plan a party or get-together, the person can invite the other people from their circle of friends that would enjoy participating in this activity.

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When two individuals begin to interact in a relationship they will usually find that they have many things in common. However, as the relationship grows over time, people may discover that there are many things that they do not have in common. Even though they still have other things in common, for some reason people begin to focus on their differences until they forget why they became friends, started dating, or got married in the first place. Here are a few tips for seeing past differences to what people have in common.

Make a List

People who want to make their friendships or relationships work should sit down with all of the parties involved and make a list of everything they have in common. They should list activities, music, art, colors, vacation spots, etc. until they have a solid list of things that they share in common. Then, when they are together they should take time to do those things. This will ensure that everyone is having a good time. It will also start to bring the focus off of the differences that caused conflict and place it on the things that will bring people closer.

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When friendships are young and growing, people expect that they will last forever. For some friendships, this is true. However, for other friendships misunderstandings, mistakes, and sometimes distance can cause friendships to be irreparable. People should not chalk themselves up as eternal loners. Lost friendships can be an opportunity for growth and improvement to make new relationships even stronger and more rewarding. Here are a few guidelines for learning from past relationship mistakes to make future friendships stronger.

Analyze the Relationship

The best way to learn from past relationships is to analyze them. This can be a difficult task, especially if feelings are still hurt. People should make sure they have set any negative feelings aside in order to be able to honestly look at what went wrong. Granted, it is possible that the other person or persons involved in the failed relationship are partly to blame, however it is likely that both parties shared a part in the relationship failure. Sometimes a good friend can be helpful in identifying ways a person has contributed to the failure of a relationship.

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One of the most devastating diagnoses for anyone to receive is the news of cancer. If you have a friend who has just received this terrible medical news you may be unsure of what you can do to help or even how to react. While great strides have been made against this medical menace there is still a great amount of fear and uncertainty for those who must deal with this disease. While there are several good websites that can help with your specific situation here are some basics about how to help a friend through cancer.

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Friendship can create a very tight bond between two people or between groups of people. As a friendship grows over time, the events and experiences people share link them. Over time each member of a friendship will have the opportunity to be there for their friend. At some point, each member will also depend on their friends to come through for them. Sometimes these situations are obvious or seemingly superficial. Other times people may need to discern the needs of their friends and figure out how to help them.

Caring for Friends

The number one thing that friends can do for a friend that may be struggling is care about them. However, friends will need to find a way to show the struggling person that they truly care before they will be in a position to offer help. First, they must ensure that their motive for helping a friend is genuine and unselfish. If a struggling friend can sense that their happiness or health is not the most important thing to a friend that is trying to help, then the friend may be more likely to continue in what could be a dangerous pattern.

Once a person has their friend's best interest at heart, they will be in a better position to help. Friends may need help in many different ways. What if a friend is emotionally distraught, socially inept, or stylistically impaired? Here are a few tips for how to handle each situation.

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Friends can be a person's best resource for honest advice about any number of personal issues. From appearance and annoying habits to buying a home or a serious health problem, friends can be great to have around for support. However, what can a person do if their friend is not tactful with their advice? Here are a few ideas on how to not get offended by a blunt friend.

Look at the Friend's Background

Sometimes the easiest way to not be offended by a blunt friend is look at their background. If a friend grew up in the country or working in an auto shop, they may not even know that they are being blunt about things. One way to get to know a friend is to go with the friend to visit their family. It will be obvious why a friend is blunt once a person has seen their friend interact with family. This can be helpful because instead of worrying that their friend is being disrespectful or mean by being blunt, a person can simply look at the advice given and be grateful to their friend.

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Having friendships is a great way to go through life. Sometimes there is a want for a platonic friendship. This means no romance between the two friends; even through they are of the opposite gender. Many have wondered if platonic friendships are possible. Are they possible in this day and age? Everywhere we look in the world there is romance between man and woman. Movies will show how a man and a woman cannot live together and be only friends. They may start out platonic but end up romantic.

There are ways that a platonic friendship can work. Platonic can be intimate and affectionate, without being romantic. Really good friendship, the kind you have with your best friend are intimate in an "I know all the intimate details of your life" kind of way. Most of the time these friendships are with members of the same gender. But sometimes a person has a better connection with someone who is of the opposite gender. This is when platonic friendships are not only possible, but can be beneficial.

Having a platonic friendship is possible when a genuine friendship is started. The friendship can't be based on "I think he's cute." For platonic friendships to work the friends need to be just that, friends. Friends have common interests or hobbies. Friends may have the same exercise tactics, or possibly children the same age. Friend doesn't have to mean the same gender. Friends can be platonic and the opposite gender. A friend listens and helps out when you need it. Platonic or not, we all need friends.

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Valentines is a wonderful holiday. It's fun to give and receive cute, pink and red gifts of affection. Most of the time we think of Valentine's Day as a holiday for sweethearts. But there are many times when you want to plan Valentine things for people who are your friends. This doesn't usually mean a sweetheart. There are so many different gifts and ideas that can be given to friends. Planning Valentine things for people who are your friends can be fun and not romantic.

One main point to think about when planning is the age of your friends. Try to get things that are fun and pleasant for the age of your friends. Most of the things made for a Valentine's Day will be okay for any age and gender. But just be sure and not give a house decoration to a friend that is 17 years old and doesn't have a house of his or her own. Also if you choose to give items like perfume, get the right gender for the different people that are your friends.

That being said when you are planning Valentine things for people who are your friends, make the Valentine light and not too serious. One thing to think about is if your friends have kids. Part of the Valentine can be for the kids. Just some simple stuffed animals or coloring books, or even some Valentine candy. If your friends have kids they will appreciate you remembering them. Something small like Valentine candy will make the kids happy for a while and the people that are your friends can have a moment to enjoy the Valentine thing you planned for them.

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Making new friends is a great way to live life. Keeping old friends is just as great. Learning to overcome differences in friendships will keep friendships kinder and longer. But sometimes learning to overcome the differences that are present in friendships takes some effort. Is this effort something that you want to put forth. It is if you value the friendship.

Learning to overcome differences in friendships involves understanding the difference. There are many times that a friend will want to do something you do not like. And there will be times when a friend will act in ways you would never even consider. This does not mean that you cannot be friends. It just means that you are different people and have some differences.

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I'm sorry are two little words that are hard for many to say. Sometimes to apologize when you have been rude or taken your frustration out on a friend takes more than- I'm sorry. There is a lot of credit to be given to saying I'm sorry. Never underestimate the power of "I'm sorry" when you need to apologize to a friend. Usually when you have taken out your frustration on a friend, talking with the friend will help ease any tension with the situation. When something more than talking is needed, there are ways to show you know you have been rude and that you want to apologize.

The first step to take when you have been rude or taken out your frustrations on a friend is to approach the friend with sincerity. This will show outwardly in your countenance. Usually a friend is good enough to be forgiving, especially after you explain your situation or feelings from the incident. Sometimes there may be lingering feelings, but do try to be patient with your friend. Remember you were the one who took out your frustrations on your friend and the chances are, your friend had no connection to your frustrations.

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It doesn't matter who your friends are there is going to come a time when one or more of them will have a break-up. As a friend you will naturally want to help your friend, especially if your friend is the opposite gender. When helping your best opposite gender friend through a break-up, try to listen more and talk less. Doing this and helping out with little chores will help keep the friendship with your best opposite gender friend. Then do try to remember to give your friend some space, if needed. When the time is right help your friend get back to dating.

Listening to your best opposite gender friend when he or she has gone through a break-up is many times all that can be done. There is a lot to just listening to a friend vent. Break-ups are hard and there is most likely going to be crying involved. This means offer a shoulder and a box of tissues and just listen. Listen to the good the bad and the ugly that has happened to your best opposite gender friend.

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Have you been getting along with your siblings' friends? Most people who will say it's hard to get along with at least one sibling's friends. But getting along with your siblings' friends will give you a better relationship with your siblings. It will also make life easier when the siblings' friends are over.

If you are trying to get along with your siblings' friends try these four suggestions.
1. Give them some space.
2. Try to be helpful with their activities.
3. Get to know the friend.
4. Don't take over.

Give your sibling and their friend some space. When siblings have friends over, especially for siblings still in the same house, don't try to get into what they are doing. Siblings have friends over because they need a change from everyday siblings. Maybe there is something they especially like to de with their friends that their siblings don't like to do. If you and your siblings are not in the same house the same rules applies. Give them some space and let your sibling know when you are coming over to be courteous.

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Being a friend to a friend going through a divorce can be crucial during this time in their life. You may not be sure of what you can do to help but there are some very practical things that a friend can do to help a friend through a divorce. Divorce will be one of the most difficult things a person can encounter and the help and support of friends can be invaluable at this time. Yet many times well meaning friends do not know what to do when their loved one needs help and instead of helping, they can actually make things worse. So here are some tips on how to help your friend get through a divorce:

1. Do not under any circumstances talk badly about the spouse of your friend! This can backfire in several ways. First of all the couple (no matter how dire the situation may seem) may end up reconciling and the things you said during the separation will be impossible to take back. Friends have found their relationship permanently damaged by things that were said during a marital separation. Secondly, if your friend shares children with the divorcing spouse they will need to maintain a relationship with their former spouse for many years to come so your bad mouthing the parent of their children will not help the situation. Third- No one not even your closest friends' want validation that they married a loser (even if it is true!)

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Let's face it: we are all really, really, really busy. None of us have any free time. We all have an impossible amount of stuff that we have to get done every single day. Maybe you have a spouse, kids, a full time job, you're a student, family with familial demands, your own hobbies and responsibilities, and more. To be involved in all of these things is not unusual-rather, it's pretty typical. And with all of these demands on our time and all of these different things that we need to get done, it is really easy to let other people-our friendships-be the first thing that we drop. It seems like they don't have to get done, unlike that major project for work. But you can learn how to balance your job and your other responsibilities in your life and your friends by learning how to juggle your tasks, balance your time, and making your friendships more of a priority. Just follow these easy tips to make your friendships more of a priority.
Tips for finding time with friends when you are busy

Begin by rethinking your life priorities. What is really most important to you? What do you care the most about? Is it really, honestly your job? Or is it your family or your friends? Your hobbies? Whatever it is, make an honest list of what is most important to you and what you care the most about.

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We all know that no family is perfect. Most families-if not all families-are far from it. It can be difficult to bridge gaps and to mend broken friendships within your family, especially since there are probably long-held and deep-seated hurts in your family. However, you can bridge those gaps in your family. While there are many gaps in families and many problems, one of the biggest issues is parents and children-no matter how old the children are-getting along. As an adult childer, or as a teenager, there are a number of things that you can do to mend the broken relationship that you may have with your parents.

No matter how old you are, it can be difficult and seemingly impossible to deal with conflict with a parent. No matter who you are and who your parent is, it is going to be basically impossible for you to avoid ever having a conflict with your parent at any time in your life. But by understanding why you are experiencing conflict, and learning how to respect the other person and to set boundaries and communicate effectively, you can positively and effectively deal with conflicts with a parent.

Some conflict is inherent in your relationship with your parent, particularly when you are a teen. However, it is also difficult to navigate relationships with your parents when you are an adult, as your roles in the parent-child relationship begin to shift and change and you have to renegotiate different responsibilities and the way that you relate to each other. But there are tools that you can use to manage constructively your conflicts with your parents, no matter how old you are.

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One of the most difficult things to do in this life is to ask a friend for a favor. When you ask some one for a favor, you are admitting that you need help doing something and that you can't do it all for yourself. Admitting that you can't do everything may feel to you that you are admitting that you are weak. However, asking somebody for a favor does not mean that you are weak. Instead, it just means that you are human. We all need help from other people, and it's okay to admit that we do need help.

You may also feel awkward asking a friend for a favor if you don't have a really comfortable relationship with that friend. However, you can always repay the favor by doing a favor for that friend. The point is, just bite the bullet and ask for the favor in a kind way, realizing that you are asking someone to do something for you. Don't expect them to do the favor, don't act like you deserve it, but be kind.

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It's always hard to apologize to people, whether they are close friends, family members, or not so close friends. Sometimes it's harder to apologize to not so close friends, because you don't feel the same connection to them and it's not as important to you to keep their friendship. However, there are a number of ways that you can get along with people who are not close friends, and ways that you can apologize to them, even if you are justified and don't particularly get along with them.

1. Do not expect the other person to change
Probably the biggest mistake that people make in relationships, whether they are in a relationship with somebody they like or somebody they don't like, is that they expect the other person to change how they act, what they like, what they don't like-basically, who the other person is. But, to be honest, you aren't going to get people to change. And you shouldn't want to completely change who another person is. Also, if you don't get along with somebody, such as one of your co-workers, it is important to realize that that person most likely sees you as the problem, instead of himself or herself. The only person you can make demands of, and the only behavior that you can change and control, is your own behavior. So apologize to the not so close friend, but realize that they're probably not that close to you because your personalities don't mesh. Don't expect them to change their personality.

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We all lose track of friends, no matter how close our friendships are. Losing track of friends is inevitable, but it's not impossible to get back in touch with past friends. One of the best ways to get back in touch with past friends is to use today's technology.

Some of the latest developments in technology-facebook and myspace--have become some of the best tools and developments for keeping friendships alive in today's world. While many people have talked about and bemoaned the tendency in today's society to no longer have friendships in the "real world" and friendships and communication only occurs online, online tools like facebook and myspace don't have to just take over your friendships and obliterate any one-on-one, face-to-face contact with your friends and family. Instead, you can use online networking sites, such as facebook and myspace, keep your friendships alive and going strong, especially friendships with friends and family who live far away from you.

One of the best aspects of facebook and myspace is the ability to search for people whom you haven't seen for years! You can search through email addresses, names, areas, and more. Those friends you knew in junior high and high school but lost touch with once you all moved away to different colleges probably have their own pages on myspace and/or facebook. In today's world, searching on facebook and/or myspace is about the only place where you can find those friends. Myspace and facebook are the only way to bring back to life friendships that have been lost because of time and changes in location. With myspace and/or facebook, you can start up conversations with your old friends, let them know what's going on with your life, arrange for reunions and trips, and share photos with them. They can learn about you, and you can learn about them! You can also look at their photos, and find more of your old friends through other people's friends.

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One of the main questions for many individuals when they get married is whether or not they can still maintain their friendships with members of the opposite sex. Some people have already addressed this issue with their partner if they have been in a long term relationship before getting married, but something about marriage makes things even more official and thus makes the problem even more difficult and central. Now that you have officially said that you are connected to this other person, can you still hang out with your old roommate's ex-boyfriend or your good friend from junior high?

I'm not going to give you an easy answer that says yes you can be friends with members of the opposite sex or no you can't be friends with members of the opposite sex. Instead, I think that whether or not you can be friends with members of the opposite sex when you are married is something that you and your spouse have to decide together, based on your relationship.

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Candor is speaking with frankness or sincerity of expression; speaking with openness. Candor is speaking with complete honesty. Wouldn't it be great to live in a world where everyone is honest? Some may say no because they may not want to hear the truth. Speaking candidly can be hard, but it can be done in a kind and loving way and it can change the outcome of any situation.

If you have a good friendship then you should be able to speak openly and honestly. When you speak candidly it is a way for people to truly get to know you and for you to get to know them. When speaking with candor, you run the risk of sounding foolish. If you decide to stay quiet, and avoid the risk, you will cheat yourself and others of feedback. Or you can say what you think, risk sounding foolish, and be willing to apologize when needed. You will in turn have a life filled with more real friendships. Friends owe it to friends to be as candid as possible.

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