How to handle pushy in-laws
Once you and your spouse have gotten married, you are going to need to learn how to deal with your in-laws. In most cases, in-laws are fine and can be easily handled until a grandchild appears. Problems with pushy in-laws can begin when you are pregnant or they can start after the baby is born. For example, you might find yourself defending future decisions about putting your child into daycare or whether it is best to breast or bottle feed. If you are experiencing these kinds of problems now, you can only imagine what is going to happen once the baby is born. The problem is that if you ignore the behaviors of pushy in-laws while you are pregnant and wait to deal with the problem until later, you will find that the problem quickly got out of hand. The best thing you can do with pushy in-laws is to deal with the problem as soon as it presents itself.
It is often said that when you get married, you marry a family, not just a person. For some couples, this is more true than with others and they find themselves dealing with in-laws who want to be involved with every aspect of their lives. 
Question: My wife's father died a few years back, and failed to plan for his wife financially after he left. She has no marketable skills, and they were never very good with their money, so she has moved in with us. At first it was great, but now she is always sticking her nose where it doesn't belong. She rearranges the furniture, painted the kitchen without asking, and put together a "TV Schedule" so that we all get to watch our shows without interrupting each other. It is getting really frustrating, even my wife, whose mother it is, can't take much more. What do we do? We can't kick her out, she has no where else to go.
Question: I have been married for just over two years now, and my in-laws are starting to become a problem. I do not have the typical problem though. It is not my mother in law that is the problem, it is my father in law. He is great, but he is really touchy feely. He is always hugging me, putting his arms around me, and even kissing my face. I am glad he accepts me, but it makes me uncomfortable. What should I do?
Marriage brings all kinds of wonderful things, like new family, sometimes children, a companionship, etc. However, one of the things it can also bring is jealousy, and problems with your family. For example, maybe before you got married you spent every holiday or weekend, etc. at home with your mom, dad, siblings, etc. and after you get married, you choose to spend more and more of your time with your spouse's family. Maybe they have more fun options, or do cooler things, or maybe they pay for you to do stuff, etc. Either way, it is important to remember when you get married that you are not replacing one family with a new one, you are gaining a new one. This means that you should not neglect the family you come from, or the family you gain, instead you should be very conscious about splitting time evenly between the in-laws. 
