Marriage Articles

We all know the jokes about marriage and the way that marriage absolutely kills off romance. You know how it goes: if you really, really, really want to destroy your romantic connection with the love of your life, just marry them and it'll be gone just like that! There have been countless TV episodes making fun of the lack of romance in marriage, countless movies about it, and who knows how many different comic strips about it.

However, your marriage does not have to be the death sentence for the romance in your relationship. There are a number of ways that you can keep the romance alive with your spouse even though you're no longer in the impassioned clutches of teenage puppy-love. Let's face it: marriage entails big responsibilities and the kind of day-to-day existence that can tend to shut down the special moments that we think of as romantic. But the key to keeping the romance alive with your spouse is to integrate romance into those day by day different things that you end up having to do together, like eating dinner and running the kids around on errands and those sorts of things.

"Tips for keeping the romance alive with your spouse" »

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One of the main questions for many individuals when they get married is whether or not they can still maintain their friendships with members of the opposite sex. Some people have already addressed this issue with their partner if they have been in a long term relationship before getting married, but something about marriage makes things even more official and thus makes the problem even more difficult and central. Now that you have officially said that you are connected to this other person, can you still hang out with your old roommate's ex-boyfriend or your good friend from junior high?

I'm not going to give you an easy answer that says yes you can be friends with members of the opposite sex or no you can't be friends with members of the opposite sex. Instead, I think that whether or not you can be friends with members of the opposite sex when you are married is something that you and your spouse have to decide together, based on your relationship.

"Being friends with the opposite sex when you are married" »

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Most couples in happy marriages would agree that the best marriage is one that communicates. It is difficult to imagine how a marriage could survive if the partnership was not able to effectively communicate with each other. With so many important issues to have to answer together, a couple has to be on the same page. We see many communication issues at the heart of divorce proceedings. And as you probably know, the number of marriages that end in divorce is quickly rising to the point where soon there will be more unhappy marriages than happy ones.

Happy marriages are not fairytales. It is possible to have and maintain a happy marriage, but you are going to have to work at it. Being able to get along with your companion during your period of courtship is one thing. Handling the hardships that life is undoubtedly going to throw at you throughout the years is definitely another thing entirely.

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You love your spouse, which is why you got married. But after the honeymoon was over you might have noticed a few things that you didn't know before. Some of these will be cute, but others with downright annoy you.

All of these things can be worked out, if you truly love your spouse then they are worth working on. But when you are talking with other people, all of the negative that you have found should not be shared.

"Why it is important to only say good things about your spouse to other people" »

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When you are dating you have fun all the time, when you are engaged there is so much to worry about that the fun seems to be a little more infrequent. And by the time you are married, fun is almost a thing of the past.

That is not how any marriage should be. Fun is an essential part of being married. Having fun with your spouse can improve your marriage in many ways. Here are just a few of the ways that fun makes a marriage better.

"Having fun with your spouse, how it improves your marriage" »

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Money is an essential part of life, and yet many times we let it get in the way of our family and friend relationships. Think about it, if you make a few hundred thousand a year, do you hang out often with people who live in the projects? Exactly. However, there is more to money then the classes and distinctions it makes, and that is the problems it can create between you and those who are already your friends, and who are in your family.

How can you make sure money does not make a problem in family or friend relationships?

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So, how can you improve your intimacy in marriage?

1. Start by making each other a priority. If you want to improve your intimacy, you have to spend time with one another, and not just the left over time that happens after a long day. That time ends up being time where you are too tired to do anything, so you do nothing, and you end up spending the time watching television next to each other. So, take time for each other.

"How to improve your intimacy in marriage" »

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Marriage is the bond of two people with totally different personalities and from totally different backgrounds. Sometimes those differences can cause problems in a marriage.

Learning to handle the differences that marriage brings will help you to grow closer together and become a more united couple. Marriage takes a lot of work and effort, and if applied right you can get fantastic results from it.

"Learning how to handle differences in marriage" »

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Your wife is a busy woman. After she gets done with everything she has to do, she somehow finds time to do things she wants to do. And you want her to have that time for what she wants but you also want some time to spend with her.

You don't understand her interests and you aren't sure if you want to. But if you gave her a chance to show you, you may discover that there is a lot more to your wife than you ever knew.

"How to take more interest in your wife's interests" »

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Whether you feel immense love for your partner right now or not, in today's age for a couple to think of growing old together seems like a joke. The rate at which divorces are taking place and couples separate, makes it a difficult task to find someone to grow old with. The following are some ways to choose a person to grow old with. A person you feel you can be with every day for the rest of your life. The person you are not going to get sick of a few years down the road:

The first step in choosing a person to grow old with is determining for yourself that the person you choose, no matter what happens, will be someone from whom you will not separate or divorce. Often times commitment to yourself, and to a goal of staying together makes the biggest difference in whether or not the person you choose will be someone you will grow old with.

"How to choose a person to grow old with" »

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All of us at one time or another has gotten mad or upset with our spouses but that doesn't mean that we don't still love our spouses. What some of us don't realize is that a marriage is a relationship that needs to be worked on everyday to keep things even, basically what this means is that even though you are married and in a relationship that doesn't mean that your life is at a stand still or you have to be stuck in a rut. In fact there are things that we can do on a daily basis to help improve our marriage. And the best thing about this is that it doesn't take much time or effort, just a little bit of thought and sincerity.

Here are some things that you can do daily to improve your marriage.

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Not everybody is going to face this problem, but it actually occurs a lot more than people think and some people can forgive and forget rather easily whereas others have a harder time. But just because your spouse is unfaithful once doesn't mean that it is going to happen again and just because they were unfaithful doesn't mean that you can't forgive them. Only you can determine what is going to happen in your relationship if you have an unfaithful spouse because only you know what you can and can't live with and how much you actually love the person and want to work out your problems.

Here are some steps that you can take to forgive an unfaithful spouse.

"Steps to forgive an unfaithful spouse" »

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Deciding on divorce is a big decision and not one that should be made lightly. Getting a divorce does not make you a bad person, but choosing to get divorced without considering the options, or at least taking time to think about things is a bad idea. So, the following are some of the things you should consider before deciding on divorce.

First consider your mindset. Usually people who are considering divorce have been weighing it their mind for a time. They usually are not happy, and are not sure what to do about it. So, you need to figure out where you mind is.

"What you need to consider before deciding on divorce" »

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A lot of people complain that once you get married the romance dies. This holds truth, usually you have an exciting courtship, ups and downs, and then you plan a wedding,e tc. This can cause marriage to be somewhat anti-climactic. You start to settle into a daily routine of financial, household, and child responsibilities, forgetting you are a couple, and all the romance that is supposed to go along with that.

So, what can you do for a more romantic marriage? Try the following to make sure your romance never dies after you get married, or to revive it if it has already passed on:

"Tips for a more romantic marriage" »

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Jealousy is a very powerful emotion, and one that most of us have felt at one point of our lives or another. Jealousy can create some pretty hideous sides of people to rear their face. Jealousy can create problems for relationships, etc. A healthy amount of jealousy is good for a relationship. However, in marriage, it is important to avoid jealousy as much as possible. Let's take a look at how to deal with jealousy in a marriage.

Most of us have experienced a jealous partner or have been in a relationship where we curiously find ourselves being insecure and jealous by nature. It is a weird feeling to have, especially if you are usually secure and you have never experienced it before.

"Dealing with jealousy in a marriage" »

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Why you should have regular date nights when married. The first and most important reason you should have regular date nights when you are married is that the divorce rate spikes among married couples after they have children, and this is usually due to not spending as much time with one another. There are new stresses and pressures when you have kids, and this sometimes leaves little time for anything else-especially for one another.

You should have date nights regularly after you are married to help keep the romance alive. You should have date nights after you are married so that you keep courting one another. You should have date nights after you are married so that you remember why it is you married one another in the first place. There are a million and one reasons to hold a regular date night. If you plan it well you could trade babysitting with another couple. You could make it much less expensive, and lots of fun.

"Why you should have regular date nights when married" »

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Women can be somewhat cryptic when it comes to speech. A lot of times they say one things and mean something completely different. The following are nine commonly uttered phrases your wife will use, and the actual meaning behind them:

Fine: Basically there are a few ways this can be said, and the tone indicates the meaning. If you ask how she is, and she responds "fine" in a chipper voice, she probably is. But if she mumbles it, or says it sourly it means that she is mad and doesn't want to waste time talking about it because you won't understand, or she wants you to figure it out on your own. This is also the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up. So look at the context of the use to derive meaning.

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Tips for getting through the hard times in a marriage. The fact of life is that marriage is not easy. Most marriages have lots of rough spots. These rough spots can cause one of two things to happen. They can either make the marriage stronger, or they can ruin it. Which it is for you, is up to you.

What your rough spots are will vary. For some it is money, for others cheating or insecurity, for others a death, or birth, etc. So, it would be wise to prepare yourself for rough spots of all varieties as the old adage goes, "It is better to be prepared for tough times and not have them than to have tough times and not be prepared."

"Tips for getting through the hard times in a marriage" »

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How to tell your spouse you love them in writing. If you love your spouse you should tell the. Sometimes it is easier to tell them in words, other times it is easier to tell them with a love letter. However, when you use a love letter, it is important that you do things right. You want to make sure that they feel your emotion, true meaning, and sincerity, not think that maybe you just can't say it.

A love letter can be a real treasure for a spouse if the letter is written right. It can be a great reminder of the love you have, of the treasured moments in your relationship, etc. A great love letter is a beautiful way to express emotion and show you care. So, whether you are husband or wife, write a love letter to show how much you care. Write them often, with sincerity, and most importantly, with love.

"How to tell your spouse you love them in writing" »

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How to have a great marriage do's and don'ts
Let's face it, we could all use some guidelines for how to help our marriages succeed, and to have great marriages. The divorce rate is incredibly high, and the fact is that you can do things to make your marriage stronger so you avoid becoming a part of the divorce statistic. When you start thinking about what is in the best interest of your marriage instead of yourself, then your marriage succeeds. Try the following Do's and Don'ts:

Do: Think about your spouse first and foremost. Show gratitude, and love daily.

"How to have a great marriage do's and don'ts" »

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Four mistakes to avoid in marriage if you want it to last

Relationships are what we have in life, and making them last is really important. However, we all make some mistakes, and these can lead to dissolution of a great relationship. The follow are four mistakes to avoid when you are married so that it will last.

Mistake one. The biggest mistake you can make if you want your marriage to last is criticizing your spouse. No one wants to be criticized. The problem is that it is all too easy to criticize your spouse for not being perfect. The problem with criticism is that we usually give them while we ignore our own imperfections.

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There are a lot of things you can do to spice up your fun in the bedroom without feeling dirty. Sometimes you just need a little stimulation to be able to get stimulated. So, here are some tips for spicing up the fun in the bedroom without feeling dirty:

Tip one: Do not use porno. One thing you do not want to do to spice up your fun in your bedroom without feeling dirty is using pornography. Porno is not going make your sex life more fun without giving you a dirty feeling. Involving others in sex is going make you feel dirty, so do not try kinky sex things like threesomes, or porn. Do not involve others, even if they are just in a video or magazine.

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There are a lot of things you can do to spice up your fun in the bedroom without feeling dirty. Sometimes you just need a little stimulation to be able to get stimulated. So, here are some tips for spicing up the fun in the bedroom without feeling dirty:

Tip one: Do not use porno. One thing you do not want to do to spice up your fun in your bedroom without feeling dirty is using pornography. Porno is not going make your sex life more fun without giving you a dirty feeling. Involving others in sex is going make you feel dirty, so do not try kinky sex things like threesomes, or porn. Do not involve others, even if they are just in a video or magazine.

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Most people would agree that a marriage is difficult enough as it is. If you never see each other how can you keep your marriage working? When your schedules conflict and you rarely see one another, how can you keep your marriage together and working?

The following are some tips for keeping a marriage working when your schedules conflict and you rarely see one another:

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What you ought to know about cheating in a marriage:
1. It is messy.
2. It is hurtful.
3. It takes time to sort out.
4. It is never a good idea.
5. It damages more than just you (especially if you have kids).

"What you ought to know about cheating in marriage" »

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Let's be honest- in reality, marriage and family are probably the most important part of our lives. It's more important than work, school, and outside activities. So when we're in a marriage and family, you probably want to do anything you can to make improvements in them. You want to be sure that your marriage is healthy. But sometimes other things get in the way of having a healthy marriage. And then our marriages suffer. So if your marriage is struggling or even if it isn't, here are some ways to improve your marriage today- today meaning you can start making improvements immediately.

1. Listen. It sounds so simple and yet it is so powerful. Think about it. How do you feel when you know you are really being listened to? How do you feel when you know you are not being listened to? See the difference? Listening while you read the paper is not listening. Listening while you watch television is not listening. Listening while you work on the computer is not listening. Listening with your eyes, attention and heart is listening. One of the most important improvements you can start making today is listening.

"How to improve your marriage today" »

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Everyone has something to complain about in their marriage. There will always be one reason or another to be dissatisfied with your relationship. It might be getting stale. It might be you are tired from the stress of life. It does not matter, what matters is how to have a more satisfying marriage. The following are so tips for how to have a more satisfying marriage.

Identify the main source of dissatisfaction:

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Being friends with your partner's friends is a good thing, and a bad. Let's take a look at the good and cad of it, and how you can get along with your partner's friends in just the right way:

The good:
Getting along with your partner's friends is good because there will be times that you all do things together, and it would be awkward and uncomfortable if you did not get along. Also, they are his or her friends, and they mean a lot to them, so it is important that you show that relationship some respect. Getting along with their friends means more fun, better times, and an assurance that when he or she is out with their friends without you, their friends are not going to be bad talking you.

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Doing work doesn't seem like something that can be fun. Chores can be really tedious, but when you group together as a family, you can make this something fun and enjoyable. Working together can bring you closer to one another, teach your children work ethic and help you get work accomplished faster. Here are some tips on how to make the experience of working together something you can look forward to.
One great way to make working together a great experience is to give yourself rewards. It's a great idea to have something positive at the end of a long day of working together. Some ideas of how to do this is to have a fun family night at the end. Cook your children's favorite dinner or desert after your finished. You can also rent or go out to a movie. It's very motivational to be working towards something, and if you do this every time, working together will become something to look forward to. You children will have a positive association with housework. Make sure that everyone's aware of the reward you're going to give yourselves at the end. It doesn't have to be anything large, but even having a little something to look forward to can make the experience great.

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To start off right with your in-laws try the following:
1. Find something good to focus on. A lot of people struggle with the in-laws because they have different ideas of how life should be lived. They want what is best for their child, and they may not agree with what you think is best for their child. They may think you aren't best for their child. This is not something you can control. What you can control, is how you react to it. So, decide now that you are going to focus on the good. Even if the only good you can find is that they have a great son or daughter.

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Women say, "I do not care." all of the time, but that is usually not what she really means. So, what does she mean when she says she doesn't care? The following are the common meanings behind the phrase "I don't care.":

1. I am too tired to decide.
Often times the woman in your life is balancing children, home, laundry, cooking, work, and school, and so when you ask her to make a decision she would rather pass the buck because she is tired. So, to best do this, she says, "I don't care." However, what she should say is, "I have been busy all day doing a million things, why don't you man up and just decide so I do not have to?"

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People think that they should be completely open and honest with their spouse, and that they should share all of their secrets, but is that really a good idea? The following are some guidelines for sharing your secrets with your spouse:

 Tell them the truth, but do not always tell them the truth. Huh? This means you should tell them the truth, and yet, this does not mean you should tell them everything. For example, if the dinner they make is terribly, and horribly disgusting, this does not mean you should tell them how gross it was. It is best to say nothing. If they ask, then point out something you did like, for example, you can say, "Thank you so much for spending so much of your precious time making me this meal." You did not lie, but you did not tell the truth either. Just because it is true does not mean you should say it. If you can keep that in mind you will have a much happier relationship.

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Both men and women have a difficult time showing interest in what the other partner enjoys doing. Most men are not interested in shoes, fashion, crafts, or cooking. While women usually do not have a very big interest in cars, golf, business finance, etc. Of course these interests are just examples and there are those couples who enjoy everything that their spouse enjoys. For those couples I say congratulations. For the rest of us, we need to be dedicated to trying harder to show interest in the things that are near and dear to our spouse. After all, we cannot show support and care for our spouse if we make fun of or belittle the things that he or she enjoys doing. These interests are part of who we are as people and we need to learn to love them.

If it is important to your spouse it should be important to you
Many times it makes absolutely no difference what it is that your spouse is interested in, you should be willing to show interest in it because it is something that is important to your partner. This is not to say that you have to develop an interest of your spouse for yourself. But to foster a healthy relationship you cannot belittle what interest's your spouse even if you have no interest whatsoever in what he enjoys doing.

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Alright, what are you planning on giving your sweetheart this year for an anniversary gift? Same ole, same ole? Let's hope not. Ok, let's be honest, women are much better at anniversary gifts than men. So, this is for the men.

Most women do like flowers, chocolates, jewelry and cards for your anniversary, but didn't you do that last year? How about we look into some new ideas for that special someone:

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Things that should be kept from you spouse would be: anything that would hurt that person unnecessarily, things that have been told to you in confidence by a friend. Certain things from your past that do not affect either of you now should be kept from your spouse. Another thing that should be kept from your spouse would be any negative feeling about any one in your spouse's family.

One secret couples keep from each other is an attraction to another person. People have fantasies about other partners all the time but they never plan to act on these fantasies. Most married couples keep quiet about their fantasies so they don't hurt their spouse's feelings, and that's okay. Most people couldn't handle having a spouse say to them, 'My fantasy is to make love with our neighbor." Some fantasies are okay to be shared with your spouse and others are better kept to yourselves. There is no sense in hurting your spouse's feeling and getting them upset over something you would never act on.

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The following are some things you should never keep from your spouse, and why:

SECRETS: A good, healthy marriage suggests that both partners, the husband and wife, will always be honest with one another. So, keeping a secret from your partner is not a good way for a newly married couple to start out their life together. Things which will have an effect on both partners, like: finances, change of residence, possible change of employment, major purchases, common religious beliefs etc. should probably be discussed fairly openly between partners. But there are certain things that one or the other can do that they don't necessarily need to share. For example, it probably isn't necessary to tell your partner that you bought a pack of gum when you stopped by the store on the way home from work. Nor is it necessary for a husband to tell his wife that he shined his shoes before he went to work in the morning. Your feelings about other people are something that you might want to keep secret, unless they are your feelings towards your mate. In a successful marriage relationship both partners should always be completely honest in their feelings towards one another. For example, if one partner begins to doubt in his love for the other, he/she should share that, as hard as it may be, even though it might hurt the other partner's feelings. Showing confidence in the partner and enlisting his/her help might be a way of working things out and eventually solving the problem.

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In almost every marriage there is at least some time when the spouses experience conflict of some sort. It is very difficult for two people to be so close and so utterly vulnerable to each other. Sometimes all of us say things we don't mean, and hurt each other within our marriages, and at certain times, marriages can come to a place where help from an outside party in order to keep a working relationship seems necessary. Many people do not wish to see a counselor when things get uncomfortable in a marriage. It is difficult to open your relationship up to a third person, especially when things feel so uncomfortable between the two of you. Although this can be a good option in certain situations, there are other things that can be tried and have often proved to be fabulous alternatives to marriage counseling.

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