Siblings often have differences, and you can let them improve your relationship, or you can let those differences create gaps, and ruin relationships. The following is a look at how you can overcome fights, quarrels, and differences, and instead of letting them tear your relationship apart, let them improve it. The following tips, if followed will help your siblings become more than just a brother or a sister, but be a friend.
First, remember this: Just because you were raised by the same people does not mean you have same values, or value the same things. Too often in relationships with siblings, we have an expectation of understanding because we were raised in the same home. This is simply not the case. Families often have children with different lifestyles, religions, education levels, etc. You may value family, and spending time with family, and so when your sibling chooses to go out with their friends, rather than meet you for lunch, you get offended.
However, if you can take a step back and recognize that your values may be different, you can see things from their perspective better. They may value their independence, and thus, having to rely on a sibling to be entertained can be daunting, and so, instead of cultivating their relationship with family, they do the opposite, and cultivate those with friends first so that they never have to rely just on family.
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