It's always difficult to be a new step-parent, and it's always difficult to be a new step-kid. Fortunately, enough people have had the experience that quite a few "how to survive and flourish" tips have formed for the benefit of humanity. Let's take a look at some of them.
First, the new step-parent has got to become very used to the process of empathizing with another (albeit smaller) human being. To empathize with someone is to emotionally identify with their emotions, with the difficulties of a particular situation they might be in. In this case, the step-parent is empathizing with the step-kid because (a) the step-kid has just lost a familiar parent, (b) is suddenly having to adjust to a new one, and (c) may, for both these reasons, really be struggling with the whole concept of trust and stability.
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