No-no two: Never say things in the "you." This means blame language. For example: "You told me you were going to clean the house, and things are a mess. You made me very upset because you said it would be finished and it isn't." Instead say, "I am disappointed the house is not clean."

No-no three: Never treat someone like a little kid by shouting their name across a crowded room, etc. People are not lost children, and it does not feel good to be singled out for negative reasons. Never do this. Instead, walk to them, and say their name in a regular voice.

No-no four: Never do things in with anger or sarcasm. Sarcasm is a big relationship killer. So, if you want good communication, then never use a loud angry tone, or negative body language. Never do sarcastic gestures like rolling your eyes, or making sighs etc. while talking. If you need to, stop the conversation, and resume it after you have regained your self-control.

No-no five: when you are communicating, communicate. Do not try and communicate with distractions. If the television is on, or someone is interrupting, etc. stop the conversation, or put it on hold until you can continue it without distraction.

No-no six: A huge communication no-no is using profanity or offensive terms when talking to or about people. Instead, simply say, "I dislike this person."

No-no seven: A huge no-no in relationship is interrupting when you are having a conversation, especially a serious one. If you have something to say, no matter how important, never interrupt. Just wait until your partner is completely finished talking.

No-no eight: Communication is more than just words, and body language says loads. So, never using threatening hand, or body gestures. If you need to communicate frustration, do it with words.

No-no nine: Never have a conversation without eye contact. If you avoid the eyes it indicates lies. So, be in close proximity, and look at the person. If this is uncomfortable for you, at least sit in the same room and talk with one another looking at each other.

No-no ten: When you are in a relationship, and you are trying to communicate, never do it with your back to the person, your arms crossed defensively, etc. Closed or negative body language is never going to get you anywhere in communication.

The reason these ten things are no-no's with communication is that they lead to triggering your partner. You want to trigger good things, not negative responses or defensiveness. So, avoid these and accentuate good.

When you have a relationship, your goal should be to make it work, and that is not going to happen when your relationship communication is poor. So, work on avoiding the no-no's that are listed above, and try the alternatives mentioned.