Tip one:
Do not argue. No matter how tempting it is to argue with your ex, you are going to need to refrain from arguing with them because arguing is not going to get you anywhere. If when talking to your ex the conversation starts to head toward an argument what you will need to do is simply end the conversation, even if it means walking away from your ex. If you resort to arguing that is not going to help solve any of your problems, all it will do is keep the negative feelings on the surface. If an argument happens when you try talking to your ex, you will need to give it some more time before you try talking to your ex again.

Tip two:
Try as hard as you can to be agreeable with whatever your ex has to say. That does not mean that you have to agree with everything that they say, but by being agreeable you will be avoiding any arguments with your ex. Many times what happens is that you or your ex will bring up all of the things that went wrong in the relationship, many of them will also try to blame all of the things that went wrong on you. The reason for this is that your ex is looking for a way to hurt you because they are hurt. Rather than disagreeing with them about what did or did not happen in your relationship, simply agree with them. Agreeing with their version of the story, even if it is wrong, will help prevent an argument from happening and it will throw your ex off guard.

Tip three:
Make sure that you let your ex know how you feel about them. This does not mean that you need to beg them to take you back or tell them that you are going to die without them. You just want to let your ex know that you will always care about them, even if it is just as a friend. You also want to let your ex know that no matter what happens now or in the future you will always be there for them if they need you. You do not want to be overly apologetic; you just want to tell them you are sorry for what went wrong and that you would like to remain friends, so that your breakup is cordial.

Tip four:
Whenever you talk to your ex, you are going to want to make sure that you keep the conversation light. The less serious things you talk about the easier it is going to be to talk to your ex. If you get into deep conversations with your ex, you can end up getting into a heated debate, which could quickly turn to an argument. You also want to keep the conversation cordial. When talking make sure that, you use the proper manners, such as saying please and thank you. Do not overdo it because being too polite can come across as forced and fake.