Tip one: Don't let it grow.
When you have a mis-communication with friends, you have one of two choices. You can clear things up right away, or you can let it go, and let it grow. The best thing you can do is not let it grow. When you let it grow, it is like taking a bottle of soda and shaking it up, then shaking it up again and again. Eventually it will explode. Let's look at a couple of examples. Let's say you and your friend make tentative plans for Thursday. Then, your friend blows you off. Then, let's say that you think you are over it, and you make plans again, and once again they fall through. Now, because you did not address it the first time, you are doubly upset about the blow off. What if it has happened four or five times? Then you are upset five times as much as you ought to.

Tip two: Explain your feelings without accusations.
When a communication problem comes up, you have to address it, but when you do you have to do so delicately. If you say, "You always blow me off." "You are the problem." They are going to go into defense mode, and suddenly, the things you do wrong get brought up as well. So, instead, make sure you explain how you feel, and do it without some accusation. You could say, "It is hard for me to want to make plans with you if other things are going to be more important." This helps them see that you are hurt, but that you are not blaming them, rather asking them to make a choice.

Tip three: Move past it.
Once you have explained your frustrations, and tried to help them see where the miscommunications are coming from and how they are affecting your friendship. Once you have cleared up the miscommunication, it is time to move on. Be friends again, and don't let a little mis-communication get in the way of a good friendship. When something happens, clear it up, and move on again. Mis-communications will happen over and over, it is simply the nature of two people who think differently being around each other.

If you let communication problems repeat themselves over and over, you are asking for the end of a friendship. Mis-communication happens, it is common to let it fester into larger, unmanageable problems. When this happens, clear it up the best you can, and move forward with your friendship.