Dating and friendship, can you do both?
Dating is so fun and friendships are so important. So dating and friendship, can you do both? Well there is a yes and a no to that question. There are many who have been able to have dating and friendship work. Then there are some who wished they had never even had the thought of dating and friendship. Whether or not you can you do both will depend on you and your friends.
Here are some ways that you can do both dating and have a friendship. One of the best ways to do both is to have group dates with your friends. You may go as a couple or just go as a group. You get to date and have a great time because you are all friends. This is less stress concerning a relationship and you can take turns getting the bill so it feels more like a date and less like a party.
When you go out on a date and it is a group date that involves friends, it usually won't hurt if you want to hold hands and be singled out a little. The group will see that the two friends are on a date and wish to get to know each other with a little bit of privacy, but not exclusion from the group.
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Dating and friendship works the best when you can date more than one friend in your group of friends. This will not single out any one specifically and will ease any tension that may come with dating one friend while trying to stay friends. Friendships are important and you will not want to mess up a good friendship.
When you want to date a friend and not mess up the friendship, don't date one friend exclusively. This will eventually lead to some romance. Keep your date with your friend's alternative with dates from other, new people. If you choose to date more than one friend don't just date your friends. Get out and date someone else. This will help keep the dating casual and not infringe harshly on friendships.
Another way that you could do both dating and keep the friendship is to be sure and have no romance. This includes kissing. Go out with your friend to a business dinner or a movie, just don't go home and have a good night kiss. Kissing is personal and if you want to keep your friendship just go as friends and enjoy the evening.
Many times when friends start dating and they get romantic, after they break-up there is no easy conversation between the two friends. This is when one stops coming around so much and the other doesn't want to be involved if the certain friend is going to be there. The dating has ruined the friendship and you find you cannot do both.
Sometimes it is nice to take a friend to family get togethers to get the family off your back about not settling down. Just don't get romantic with your friend even if you brought him or her as a date. Keep things light and free from commitment even if your family insists.
If you want your friendship to still be there after you date your friends be sure to have the understanding that you are not going to get romantic or date only that one friend. If you fail to make this clear and okay with both friends involved, the friendship and dating will not work.
As a general rule just dating friends or exclusively dating a certain friend will not work with continual friendship. If it is dating and friendship you want to do, don't get romantic with your friends. Dating and friendship, can you do both? Maybe, if you remember to go in groups and keep the date on a relaxed level. If you do want to do both make all intensions clear form the beginning for all concerned.
