Dating Ideas: Feature Article

Most people know that the best date is one that was planned out before the date. The worst dates are those that had little or no thought put into them at all. Here are some dating ideas to help you plan your date.
Games to play
No matter what age you are charades is always a hit. Charades is a game of pantomimes, you act out a word or phrase without speaking, while your team members attempt to guess what the word or phrase is. Charades requires little equipment to set up: stopwatch or timer, notepad for score keeping, slips of paper with words or phrases written, a basket to hold to slips of paper.
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You will have 2 teams of equal size competing against each other. Each team will be given a few blank slips of paper and a pen. Before you begin playing you will need to select a neutral timekeeper and scorekeeper and agree on how many rounds you want to play. Both teams will go into separate rooms and discuss appropriate gestures and hand signals and create the phrases or keywords the other team will have to act out.
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The game starts with one team drawing a phrase from the opposing team's basket. That person will have a few seconds to review the slip and then will tell the timekeeper when they are ready to play. Each person will be given 3 minutes to act out the word or phrase and if your team guesses before the time expires, the timekeeper will track this to determine who has the best score at the end of the game. The winner will have the smallest number for the total time it took to guess the phrase.
Commonly, there are gestures used to identify the category or other factors in the game, here are some of the common hand gestures:
- Book title - Unfold your hands, as if they were a book
- Play title - Pretend to open a curtain
- Movie title - Gesture as if you were cranking an old-fashioned movie camera
- Number of words in the phrase - Hold up the number of fingers that is in the phrase
- Sounds like - Cup one hand behind you ear
Charades is a great way to have fun on your date and make your date comfortable around you. Playing a fun game like charades with a group of people will be a hit!
Dance, Dance Revolution
Most people think video games aren't for dating, well you are wrong! Dance, Dance Revolution has taken off and many people have found it is a fun game to play on a date. Two players can dance together side by side as competitors or as friends. This game has taken the entire world by storm and there are tournaments held and it is even recommended as a weigh loss program!
Here is how you play: You need to have the appropriate gaming system (PS2, PS3, XBOX, or XBOX 360) and a dancing mat (included when you purchase the game). The players will select one song from a listing. Your dance matt has corresponding arrows to the video game such as: up, down, left, right. You will touch the appropriate arrow that corresponds with the game and you will be rated on your performance. At the end of the song, the player will be given a final score from "A" to "E" based upon how many correct steps they made.
The game can go from a basic level to an advanced level. It is a fun game to play on a date as you will not only be laughing at yourself and your date, but getting a little exercise too!
If you aren't sure what to do on a date, here are some tips to help you plan the date before you pick them up:
- Go hiking, swimming, bowling, or to a comedy club. Each of these activities will allow you a chance to actually talk to your date.
- Get a group together and play beach volleyball.
- Charades is another fun game to play with a group.
- Take your date to an outdoor movie. This is fun because you can set up a little picnic and watch the movie together, while cuddling in a blanket.
- Gather a group and have a cookout in the mountains. Cooking hot dogs over a fire is actually a lot of fun and then you can make tasty smores after!
- Play laser tag, paintball, or hit softballs. We aware that paint balling may involve getting painful bruises, so be sure to tell your date and her/his parents before you go.
- Play miniature golf
- Go to a theme park or carnival
- Race car driving is another fun activity
- Ice skating or roller skating
- Go to a concert or sporting event
No matter what type of activity you do, be sure to keep it pressure free for everyone involved. Remember, dating should be fun, not scary or stressful. As long as you plan out the date, respect them, and go into the date with self confidence, you will have a great time.
Adventurous dating requires just the right type of personality. Know a little bit about your date before you show up with rock climbing gear. Here are some dating ideas for the person who likes adventure:
- Caving
- Rock Climbing
- Bouldering
- Canoeing
- Scuba Diving
- Mountain Bike Riding
- Snow skiing or Snowboarding
- Fishing (winter or summer)
- Hot Air Ballooning
- Camping
- Waterskiing
- Gather a group and have a wet t-shirt fight or play water balloon volleyball.
If you are looking for some fun, inexpensive dates, here are a couple suggestions:
- Purchase inner tubes and float down a river
- If it is winter, go sledding or tubing
- Summer is a great time to go icing (this is where you buy large blocks of ice and slide down a grassy hill)
- Have a BBQ or cookout in your backyard
Romantic dating often requires a little money and planning on your part. If you live close to a beach, take your date for a walk on the beach and surprise them with a candlelight dinner on the beach. Rose gardens also set the mood for romance, especially if it is during the sunset. A horse drawn carriage ride is another way to have a romantic date. Romantic dates should be fun and need to be carefully planned, don't be a mess if it doesn't go exactly as you planned though. If the weather decides to rain on your outdoor picnic, have a back up plan ready to take place.
Another great idea for a date is to dinner theatre. Gather a group of people and assign characters to everyone. This is a fun way to dress up and have an enjoyable evening. Planetariums are another fun place for a date. Of course, it also sets a good mood for holding hands too! You and your date can sit in the dark and start-gaze. Some planetariums offer laser shows too.
Here are some tips to keep in mind when you are on the date:
- Your date deserves respect.
- Be upbeat and positive. No one likes being with someone who is considered a "downer".
- Never force your date to do anything they are uncomfortable with doing. This doesn't just mean kissing or sex, this can mean swimming, bungee-jumping, or other activities they may not feel comfortable doing. (Drug and alcohol abuse are included here too)
- Plan the date before you go on it. The worst thing you can do is pick up your date and then say "so what do you want to do?"
- Ask questions and actually listen to what your date is saying. This will help you both get to know each other better.
- Never give into peer pressure.
- Be comfortable with who you are and radiate confidence in yourself. You have to believe in yourself if you hope to be successful.
Knowing who you are will help you on your date. You will be able to clearly explain your life expectations and goals to your date and keep the conversation going. It is much easier to date someone who shares similar goals and values as you. Not only will this keep up the conversation, but it will reduce the pressure to do unwanted or uncomfortable activities. Dating is a time in your life where you build relationships with people. They may not turn into romantic relationships, but long-term friendships can develop.
By planning out a date before you pick him/her up, you will have a better time. Not only will you have confidence in yourself for planning it, your date won't have to worry about coming up with ideas on the spot. Weather you plan a date for just you and one other person or a large group, be sure to PLAN IT! Don't just sit back and expect your friends to come up with the ideas if you are doing a group date. Be sure to have ideas ready in case their plan falls through.
