Dating tips: Featured Article

Here are some dating tips that you can follow on things that you should do for a first date and what happens after the first date.
Tip one:
Choose the right outfit. If you are wearing provocative or even inappropriate clothing you are risking the fact that you are going to make a horrible and wrong impression on your date. Even if your date is familiar to you, meaning you have known this person or even chatted with them online or through emails, by wearing flashy or revealing clothing the message that you are sending to them is that you are trying way too hard to impress them. What you want to do is wear clothes that are going to be appropriate for the date's venue, meaning where you are going to be going. But you also want to make sure that you are wearing clothing that your date is going to be comfortable with.
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Tip two:
Don't wear too much perfume or cologne. Many people tend to wear too much because they cannot smell the perfume or cologne from their body so they tend to think that they do not have enough on. All you need to do is apply the perfume to your pulse points, behind your ears and on the wrists and you are ready to go. With cologne just a spray or two will work or even consider splashing on a small amount of aftershave.
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Tip three:
Consider meeting them at a public place, such as a park or a restaurant. Even if you are dating somebody you know this can be a good idea because you never know what might happen. And if something does go wrong you will be in a safe and secure environment if other people are around. Not to mention you will have your own form of transportation if you feel like you need to leave for some reason.
Tip four:
Make sure that you prepare some type of plan for your date. This is actually going to be easier if you are familiar with your date, and if you are going out on a date with somebody you had to have some kind of communication so you have to know a few things about them. What you should do to help prepare a plan for your date is to write out a list of things that you and your date would both love to do and then choose something from that list. But you want to keep a few things in mind when planning these activities, such as food allergies or even old injuries, which can be hard to know about when it is your first date.
Tip five:
If you are a male you should still practice chivalry, if you are a female you should expect some chivalry from your date. Many people start to think that because we are in a new century and women are becoming more and more independent that women do not enjoy men who show chivalry and that they want to do everything on their own. This is very far from the truth; most women still want men to take care of them. Basically what this boils down to is opening doors, pulling out chairs, letting her order first, and letting her win at sports.
Tip six:
Always look your date in the eyes. This lets your date know that you are interested in them and that you are listening to what they are saying. Basically looking them in the eyes lets your date know that you are paying attention to them and not letting your mind wander and think about other women or what else you could be doing.
Tip seven:
Always listen to what your date has to say. You should ask questions about what they are telling you and about your date in general. This will show your date that you are actually interested in what they are saying and who they are as a person. But keep in mind that it is important to show that you are really interested rather than pretending that you are interested because your date will pick up on the pretend interest and will be offended. Another reason that you need to not pretend to listen is that your date might end up talking more about themselves rather than making it a stimulating conversation. Here are some of the better topics for date conversations:
- Work
- Hobbies
- Books
- Music
- Movies
- Sports
Whatever you do decide to talk about you want to make sure that you avoid talking or asking about religion, politics, and former relationships.
Tip eight:
No matter what else happens on the date make sure that you are having fun and that your date is too. One of the best ways to bring laughter into any conversation is to bring out your sense of humor through jokes. You should also make all of your activities light and happy. But if it looks like your date isn't having fun or isn't laughing at your jokes, you don't want to tell anymore jokes and you might want to choose a different activity.
Tip nine:
Send your date a thank you message right after the date. It might be tempting to call your date to say thank you because that method is more personal, but many people view a phone call right after the date as too eager and admit that it sometimes turns them off of the person. So you can either send them a text message or an email message, but remember keep it short and sweet.
Tip ten:
If you are a guy you will want to wait two days before you call your date again. If you call too soon you are sending the message that you are overly keen and are too eager. If you call them too late then your date might think that you are simply playing games and that you are not very sincere. If you are a woman you need to wait for the guy to call at this stage.
Tip eleven:
Do not talk for too long on your first call. Many people who talk too long on the first phone call tend to come off as needy, which when trying to impress your date you want to come across as fun and outgoing rather than needy. You want to keep the phone conversation short and simple in the beginning, once things have moved on you can talk longer.
Tip twelve:
Do not let your nerves get the best of you when you are talking to your date, either in person or over the phone. Sometimes it helps to know what you are going to say beforehand so you can prepare yourself. In fact some people find it useful to practice what they are going to say before they call.
Tip thirteen:
Always smile when you are talking. This is even important to do if your date can't see you. The reason for this is that when you are smiling while talking the smile comes across in your voice and your date will respond to the smile in your voice even if they can't see it.
Tip fourteen:
If all you are getting when you call your date's number is the answering machine the chances are good that they are screening their calls and do not share the same feelings for you, meaning that they are not interested in you. If you do get their answering machine simply leave a message with your phone number one time, if they don't return the call then simply move on to somebody else, if they were interested they would have called back.
Tip fifteen:
If you are receiving numerous calls from your date this can be a bad sign. Usually what happens is that people who call over and over are showing the early signs of being clingy and needy. And being needy for most people is considered unattractive because it shows signs of insecurity. And at this stage of the game the dating should be relaxed and casual.
Tip sixteen:
Do not repeatedly text message your date. Although sending messages through your phone are fun and convenient, it can easily be misinterpreted. People can view you as a stalker type when that is a far cry from the truth. They can also view you as needy or insecure, the same as if you are calling too much.
Tip seventeen:
No matter what you do you should never sit at home and wait to see if your date is going to call or not. You have your own life to lice so rather than sitting inside waiting for a phone call you should be out in the world enjoying your life. If your date is going to call you they will. And if you are not home they will either call back or leave a message if they are interested.
Tip eighteen:
Keep in mind that excuses are rarely true. Sure sometimes things happen, but they do not happen all of the time. If you start getting a lot of excuses then you know it is time move on to other people.
Tip nineteen:
Make sure that you keep your expectations low. You would rather have a pleasant surprise than defeated expectations. When the phone rings you can just let the answering machine pick it up and call them back when you are ready.
Tip twenty:
Always keep your promises about calling back. If you have told your date that you will call them back make sure that you follow through. Even if you are not interested you should still call if you said you would and then let them down gently. The reason for this is that waiting for a call that never comes is the worst thing that you can do to someone because it wastes their time and hurts them emotionally.
