3. Ask your date what they want to do: don't surprise your date with a horror movie, a meal, etc. at least not on the first date. Why not? Well, think of it this way, you don't want to 'surprise' a vegetarian with a dinner at "Hank's House of Beef." You get the point...surprises are great, but not for first time dates! Make sure you know them pretty well first!
4. Be honest, don't play games: Game playing is for junior high kids. So, grow up, don't even stretching the truth, the first time you're caught it will destroy your credibility. So, be real!
5. Give them space: ok, we all love affection, if you are into someone you like to hold hands, maybe even kiss on the first date. But, the number one rule of dating is don't manhandle your date and don't rush sex! This goes for girls as much as it does for guys. A clingy girl can look needy, desperate, and easy.none of those are traits you want to be portraying.
6. Sprints, not marathons: You've all heard the grab a cup of coffee, not dinner, so that you can go into dinner if you need to, and end it after your biscotti if you need to. So, is there truth to that? Yes! You want to keep the first date brief. Leave them wishing for more, not wondering how to escape.
7. Don't talk about money: No one likes being around someone who trumps themselves up. If you are someone who only talks about money and 'things' or who boasts, this is usually a sign of deep-seated insecurity, and it goes up like a red flag to your dates, so avoid doing this.
8. Keep it light: Don't talk about marriage, kids, or any sort of long-term plans for the two of you. Nothing scares dates away more than jumping the gun on a relationship. Talk about that stuff later, after steady dating, not on your first date.
9. Vague is not good: basically you have one chance to make a good impression, so be clear about the date, time and place...and be on time! If you leave things hanging with "I'll call you later with the details?" you may end up having trouble getting a hold of them, or make plans that do not work. So, be clear, make concrete plans, and do it right away.
10. Don't always be too charming: people do not always want what is too good to be true. It creates doubts, makes them wonder if they are missing something, and frankly, it starts a relationship off on the wrong foot, by planting seeds of doubt-"Is this guy for real?" "Is she really this great?". So, when you date, show your fun side, your serious side, admit that you are not perfect, but then try to be. Real is in, so don't always go out with your best clothes on, all made-up looking like you are ready for prom. You want people to like you, and all sides of you, so think of it this way: it is much like a job interview. You dress up for the interview, you are super polite and perfect, but then after you get the job you get into a routine, you start wearing your flip flops instead of heels, you wear your hair in a pony tail, and forget make-up altogether on Friday. But, you don't get fired, why? Because they can now see your value beyond your appearance. That is how dating should be. On your first date, it is right to go all out, but if you do that every time people are going to start wondering what is going on.