Not being good enough: One of the biggest problems you face with in-laws is them considering you not good enough for their child. This is especially problematic if the person you marry is an only child, an only girl, or an only boy, or comes from a very affluent family and you do not. The problem with this is that you will feel animosity and always feel like you are unwanted, or that you have to prove yourself.

So, how do you solve this in-law problem? By proving them wrong. Your spouse and you can only solve this problem if your spouse is willing to always side with you no matter what. They have to show their family that you come first in their life, and they in yours. When they see that you two are extremely close, and that you will not allow them to say negative things about one another to either of you, they will start to accept you. However, if their child allows them to knock on you to them or in front of them, then it will not solve easily.

Nosey or bossy: Some in laws feel like because they are part of the family now that they get to know everything about you, and can give you advice, even in areas you do not want it. This can be about children, about money, etc. They may ask you things that are inappropriate, or they may come into your home and go through your bills, emails, toiletries, etc. This is especially true in families where the child relied heavily on the advice and help of their parents, and never really cut the apron strings.

So what can you do? You can cut them now. You can let them know that you love them and will share information with them as you see fit, but that if they invade your home or privacy that you will put your foot down. If they harass you about when you are having kids, or how you should raise them, etc. you can ask them to leave your home, or not call you until they have something kind to say, etc.

These are just two common examples of problems with in-laws. Sometimes the problems worsen over the years, and sometimes they get better. The key to bettering the relationship you have with your in-laws is to get to know them, and let them get to know you. If they never see you, they will never have a chance to rectify their opinions of you. If you never face them about issues of bossiness, or inappropriate behavior, they will never stop doing it. When you lay your foot down, and let them know that you love them, and will continue to love them, but will not put up with garbage from them, they will stop.