If the relationship you feel jealousy in is platonic, such as a mother child relationship, then jealousy is a whole different beast to slay than jealousy in romantic relationships. For example, let's say you are jealous of your spouse because they have an ability to connect with one of your children that you can't seem to get through to. This jealousy might eat at you because you know you should be happy that they have a close relationship, but you can't help but feel frustrated and.well.jealous.

But, does that mean you would you try to take away your child from your spouse? Would you confront the spouse about it? Probably not, but what if instead of your child, it is your wife, or your husband, or your boyfriend or girlfriend? Now how would you feel? What would you do? If someone else had the ability to connect with them better than you, how would that jealousy be different? That is why you have to first determine what type of jealousy you are feeling before you can deal with it.

The main difference in these two types of jealousy is faith. You have total faith that your child may run around and play with many people around the day, will be close with your spouse, and have other friends, but will at the end of the day still love you, still come to you if they are hungry, thirsty, or need a hug. You do not have the same faith with your lover/spouse. If you do not have the faith that no matter who they associate with, or who they have relationships with, that at the end of the day they will come back to you for their comfort, you will be jealous. Somewhere in your mind, you are questioning yourself. You will always be wondering about your looks, your intelligence, your relationship skills and all other factors that may break your relationship and make your spouse/lover go into another relationship. This type of jealousy is much harder to deal with, however, it is still possible.

To deal with this type of jealousy you have to work on your own insecurities. So, start doing this by discussing, without hesitation, everything in your mind with your spouse/lover. Any worry or jealous instinct you have should be exposed. Then ask that they do the same. If you can do this and be totally open with one another, that will give you the ability to discuss everything and decide where your relationship is going, and what it means, and therefore, whether or not your jealousy is founded or silly.

If after this discussion you find that you are not totally committed to just one another, then you will know that your jealousy should have been there, it had reason, and you can either work to make your relationship more committed so you do not have to be jealous, or break it off. However, if you find that your relationship is here to stay, it is time to rid yourself of jealousy. Usually you can do this by giving that commitment of love and take that commitment in return. Then reminding yourself of your worth often. Jealousy mainly comes in our mind because we are not sure of the love and commitment in our relationship. So, to deal with jealousy, determine the love and commitment, and if there is not enough, break it off.