If you leave sibling rivalry untreated, your children will develop other problems like aggressive personalities, poor self-esteem issues, and jealousy. A child that suffers from low self-esteem will be unhappy. They will not be happy with themselves and they will constantly seek your attention and your approval. Quite often they will compare themselves to their siblings and they will try to emulate their behavior because they assume this is the behavior you want them to have. They have a hard time understanding who they are and they cannot seem to find themselves.

As a parent, you need to stand on neutral ground. Taking the side of one sibling over another will cause them to feel rejected and upset. Quite often they will envy their siblings and they will act out more because they want the attention. If you notice sibling rivalry problems, talk to your children one-on-one. Don't blame them or chastise them, instead find out why they are acting out and why they are treating their siblings disrespectfully. Asking questions can help you get down to the root of the problem that your children are having.

Each child you have deserves your love, attention, and support. If you hug one child, make sure you give that same affection to your other children. All of your children need to see that you love them. They need to feel that you love them and that you will be there to support them no matter what happens.

Spend one on one time with each child. This will help to boost their self-esteem. Children need attention from you as a group and individually. Spending one on one time with them will show them that you actually care about them and they will feel this love. When you are alone with them, find out what is making them so upset. This is also a great opportunity to get to know your children a little bit better. You can find out what their interests are and look for ways to connect with them and build a stronger relationship with them.

Watch the way your children interact with one another. If they push each other or do behavior that is intolerable, address all of them as a group. Let all of them know that jealousy and other behaviors and actions and not going to be tolerated. If they keep it up, discipline them individually and make sure you discipline when you are not around the other children.

You need to get the support of your spouse in order to stop sibling rivalry from occurring. Your spouse may be causing it because of the way they are treating the children. Remember to treat them equally and love them equally, favoritism is the worst thing you can do to your children.