1. Relationships change. You will not always get butterflies when they call you because after a while, you begin to expect those calls, or talking to them is so normal that it is really not a big deal. In addition, the things that incite love during a relationship change over time. During the "honeymoon" stage a glance, or a bum swat, or a kind word might make you feel all nice and warm and cozy and full of love. However, once you have been married for a time, you might find love in completely different things, like them putting the toilet seat down, or rinsing their dishes out before putting them in the sink. This is not to say that you no longer love your husband because a steamy glance doesn't get you all passionate, it just means that relationships mature and change. And, may we say, thank goodness. When you were a teenager, holding a boy's hand could be the cause of hours of phone calls and emails. So, things change, and that is good.

2. Love grows and matures. Love has a way of growing, while it changes. Imagine if your husband did some of the things you know about them now, or they do in front of you now (think ingrown hairs, zit popping, pooping, farting, burping, discussing bowels and bladders), back when you were dating. You would have run away, probably for good. Love has a way of making you see past the gross stuff, and recognize the person for the wonderful, caring, and amazing individual that they are. So, you might not get burning loins like a romance novel each time you see your husband, but that does not mean you no longer love them.

3. Appreciation, respect, and comfort are often the forms love takes. As a relationship matures, often love becomes less about physical attraction, and being turned on by your spouse, and becomes more about the respect, mutual appreciation, and comfort you share. How many senior couples do you know that express their love with passionate kisses? None, I hope. Instead, it is things like remembering to fill prescriptions, and rubbing joint cream on their wrinkly skin that express love. So, do not mistake your love for something that it is not, and do not mistake a lack of wild lusty passion for a lack of love. Usually mature relationships can have passion, but have so much more than that as well.