Forgive and forget with family
Family, the friends that we don't get to choose. Sometimes we are nicer to our friends than we are to our family. However it is so very important to forgive and forget with family. There will always be contentions between family members and there will always be the need to just forgive and forget. With family there is going to be the occasional time you will have to be in the same room, and if you are not on good terms with a certain family member then there will be contention for more family members than you think.
So when it is you that needs to forgive and forget begin by trying to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Even though family is family, they do not tell everything to everybody. So to better understand the family member, go talk to the one who has offended or done something wrong to you. See what they are going through and you might be able to better understand why it is they were rude or offensive. Talk with the family and then forgive and forget.
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Many times in family it is a lack of communication that has caused the need to forgive and forget. If you are tempted to see what is going on from another family member before you go to the one who has offended you, don't. This will only cause more hearsay and make matters worse. Go up to the family member cautiously and with the sincere desire to get all matters out in the open and let them be worked out, then forgive and forget.
When a family member is not willing to talk, then you have the choice to let it fester in you and cause you some heartache and problems, or you let it go. You can forgive and forget the incident even if you cannot talk with who it is you need to. This is when it is sometimes nice to get an outside view and perspective. The outside viewpoint may open your eyes as to why you were treated rudely. This can help you to forgive and forget the problem with your family.
One would like to think they never insult or offend a family member. But this is not the case. When this does happen it is your turn to seek the forgiveness and understanding with the family member. When a family member comes to you and says you have offended them, don't get offended yourself, just talk about the why and work it out.
Once again communication is key to good relationships, family or not. With family just be open and honest and let them know what's going on in your life to cause such stress that you were rude. More than likely they have been in your situation or a similar one before and will be very understanding and forgiving. And in no time at all it will all be forgotten.
To forgive and forget with family doesn't mean to never think of what happened again. To forgive means to not hold a grudge and use it against family later. When the subject is brought up forgiving means to not be cruel or malice towards family. To forget for some means to never talk about the subject again. For others, forget means to use the experience as a learning one. When the matter is brought up there are easy feelings and even a joke or two. It is important to know how you family is and what forgive and forget means with your family.
To forgive and forget with family is so important. Family is all you've got sometimes. Family is blood and they will stick up for you no matter what. When you have offended someone be open and honest when you go asking for forgiveness. If you are the one who has been rude, don't take too long to apologize and get the situation cleared up. Forgive and forget with family and you will have better relationships within your family.
