Getting along with siblings' friends

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Have you been getting along with your siblings' friends? Most people who will say it's hard to get along with at least one sibling's friends. But getting along with your siblings' friends will give you a better relationship with your siblings. It will also make life easier when the siblings' friends are over.

If you are trying to get along with your siblings' friends try these four suggestions.
1. Give them some space.
2. Try to be helpful with their activities.
3. Get to know the friend.
4. Don't take over.

Give your sibling and their friend some space. When siblings have friends over, especially for siblings still in the same house, don't try to get into what they are doing. Siblings have friends over because they need a change from everyday siblings. Maybe there is something they especially like to de with their friends that their siblings don't like to do. If you and your siblings are not in the same house the same rules applies. Give them some space and let your sibling know when you are coming over to be courteous.

Sometimes a sibling will bring a friend over to show them something. Give your siblings' some space to be with their friends. Giving your siblings and their friends some space will show you care about what they are doing and that you respect them. This will vastly help you to get along with your siblings' friends. They won't feel pressured by you and your sibling wanting their attention.

Getting along includes being helpful. Try helping your siblings' and their friends out when they need it. This may mean a ride somewhere. Or sometimes a younger sibling can't get the show they want to watch on the T.V. Help out with the activities your siblings and their friends want to do and they will see you as a friend, and not so much as an enemy. They may not involve you in all that they do but you will be able to get along with the friends of your siblings'.

If you are trying to be helpful with your siblings' and their friend's activities and you don't live in the same house, then still go over and be helpful with projects that might need to be done. This will show your sibling and their friends that you want to share in the friendship they have not change or over power it. You want to get along and so get involved with your siblings' friends.

Getting to know your siblings' friends will help immensely in getting along with the friends. It was Abraham Lincoln who said, `I don't like that man, I'll have to get to know him better." When we are not getting along with someone often times it is because we don't know them or why they do some things. By getting to know your siblings friends you can take away any kind of jealous feelings or resentment towards your sibling or their friend. It may take some time to get to know and understand your siblings' friends, but it will be worth it. You may need to slowly work your way into the friendship and not be over bearing with your question about the friend. It may be nice to talk to your sibling's about the friend to get to know them without being rude.

Whatever you do while getting along with your siblings' friends, don't take over. Don't take over any activity. Don't domineer the friends' time. Get involved when they want your help, but let your sibling and their friend make any decisions and have control. This is most helpful when you are trying to get along with your siblings' friends because they will not see you as a threat to their friendship.

Getting along with your siblings' friends can take some work, but the lack of contention is worth it. Always remember to not take over control of the friends' time with your sibling. Also give them some space for things they want to do. Do try to be helpful when they want help with an activity or project. And get to know your siblings' friends so that you can all get along and enjoy each other.

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