Giving your spouse the attention and love they deserve
Being in a marriage can be rewarding in many ways. You have a best friend, someone that you can rely on and do things with, and also someone that you can turn to when you need help and comfort or someone to talk to. Giving your spouse attention that they need is very critical. Most marriages end in divorce because of lack of communication. The ratio of marriage to divorce is 2 to 1. Below are some ways that can help you to give your spouse the attention they need and deserve.
Start by listening. When your spouse has something they want to talk about, put all distractions aside and give them your full attention. Doing so will show your spouse that they are the most important thing to them. As they talk, listen and take mental notes on what they are speaking to you about. Do not interrupt while they are talking. When they are done, that is the time to speak to them. If you do not agree with what your spouse is talking to you about, be respectful when disagreeing. Let them know that you don't think their opinion is wrong, just different from yours. When you start listening to your spouse, they in turn will start listening to you when you want to talk about something.
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Spoil your spouse. You don't have to have money to spoil the one you love. There are many simple ways that you can spoil your spouse with attention. For example, take your spouse on a picnic or for a walk around your neighborhood. When you do this, leave your cell phone and other distractions at home. Giving your full attention to your spouse for 30 minutes will give them the opportunity to be with just you. One-on-one time is rare and very important. Try to find even 30 minutes to spend with your spouse after dinner and before bed to talk to them and just hug them.
Take your spouse on a date. A lot of couples will lose the fun flirty times with each other a few years into marriage. You need to keep the relationship alive. Going on a date will make not only your spouse, but will make you feel and see the reasons you first fell in love and married. Going on romantic getaways is another great way to give your spouse and your marriage some attention. Doing a long weekend away at a Bed and Breakfast or getting on a plane and going to Paris for the weekend are some examples.
Support your spouse with decisions that they are about to make. These decisions could be going to school or back to school to further their education. It can also be when your spouse is about to make a career change. We all start our careers at different companies and in order to grow we sometimes have to go to another company. Be there to support your spouse in any way they need you. This could be helping them pack up their office and moving into a new one, or helping them pick out that new backpack for school.
If you have a family or are planning on having a family, be sure to take time away just for the two of you and for your own alone time. Having full time jobs and being full time parents can be stressful and hard on a relationship. If your spouse stays home with your children all day, give your spouse a break by cooking dinner yourself or letting your spouse go to the gym, for a run or even to get a massage. Keep your relationship alive.
