You do not sleep as well: The fact is, beyond the effects that anger can have on a relationship, it can negatively affect your body. This can lead to poor health, especially if you lose sleep, or get fitful sleep. One of the worst side effects of going to bed angry is the physical effects it can have on you. If you lose sleep, your immune system can become depressed. If you have stress, which fighting often causes, it can depress your immune system, etc. So, basically your chances of getting sick go way up, and your mental clarity and focus go down. Thus, going to bed angry is not only bad for your marriage, but your health, job and other aspects of your life.

Often you brood, and dwell on the problem: If you go to bed angry you might be putting yourself in a position of darkening your mood for the rest of the week. Why? Because instead of resolving a problem, you give yourself something to worry over, brood on, and build up inside yourself. Often focusing on a problem can make it much worse. The more you dwell on it, the more insignificant things can seem astronomical. Because you are dwelling on it, other issues take on a new life. For example, if you are mad at your husband for not spending enough time with you, and you do not resolve it, then you see his dirty socks on the floor, it might become a big deal, and turn into, "He never helps." "He is so messy." "He expects me to do everything, even pick up after him."

Your body is filled with tension etc.: When you go to bed angry, your body is usually filled with tension, which can cause all sorts of ill effects. Again, not good for health, or good rest.

So, how can you resolve your problems before you go to sleep?

1. Listen first. Listening means not sitting there pretending to listen while quietly coming up with what you are going to say to rebuff their arguments or statements. It means actually opening yourself up to the idea that they might have a point, and hearing what they have to say.

2. Talk second. Once you listen, then you can share. It is important for you to discuss both sides of the issue. If you need to yell, do so, but remember to respect that they get to share their opinion on the situation, and so do you.

3. Compromise third. Figure out a way to make it work for both of you. Don't be afraid to say what you want, and why.