Parents often become angry and protective when they discover their child is being bullied. But what should you do if your child is a bully? The following are some ways to handle a child who bullies other kids.

How can I tell if my child is a bully?
Some signs you child may be bullying others include:

• Responds to situations through violence or aggression (including yelling)


• Aggressive towards adults, including teachers or parents


• Shows a need to control and dominate others and situations; always has to be "in charge"


• In boys, physically stronger than peers


• Easily frustrated and short-tempered


• Often test limits or break rules without fear of repercussion


• Laughs, joins in, or shows little sympathy toward others who are bullied


• Parents or other children complain about your child

What to do when your child is a bully
If you find out your child is a bully from other parents or from teachers, the following tips will help you handle the situation:

• Find out what happened. The most important thing you can do first is get the whole story before reacting. Communication is very important. Listen to his side of the story to find out what occurred and why, if bullying actually did occur.
• Don't make excuses. Many parents have a tendency to become defensive or make excuses for their child. Avoid doing this, or your child's bullying will only get worse.
• Don't assume it's a normal part of childhood. Teasing is normal, but bullying is harmful and should not be tolerated.
• Let your child know that bullying will not be tolerated. Your child needs to know that you will not allow this kind of behavior and treatment of others. He or she needs to know that bullying is a serious problem. Avoid punishing your child physically for bullying.
• Stay involved and supportive of your child's activities, sports, and so forth. Sometimes, bullying is the result of low self esteem. Take steps to nurture a positive self image in your child.
• Get to know your child's friends. Know who they are with and keep your eye out for any behavior that is bullying. You should also get to know their friends.
• Stay in touch with the teachers and principals. It is important that you remain involved in your child's school life, and teachers will have important insight on your child's behavior in the classroom.
• Practice positive reinforcement. If you notice that your child's behavior is improving and he is trying to control his bullying, temper, etc, be sure to let him know that you notice it and appreciate it.

If you try all of these things and don't notice a positive change in your child's behavior, there may be underlying issues your child is dealing with and you should speak with a professional.

Bullying can be harmful to those being bullied, but it can also be an indication of a more serious problem and should not be ignored.