Helping your best opposite gender friend through a break-up
It doesn't matter who your friends are there is going to come a time when one or more of them will have a break-up. As a friend you will naturally want to help your friend, especially if your friend is the opposite gender. When helping your best opposite gender friend through a break-up, try to listen more and talk less. Doing this and helping out with little chores will help keep the friendship with your best opposite gender friend. Then do try to remember to give your friend some space, if needed. When the time is right help your friend get back to dating.
Listening to your best opposite gender friend when he or she has gone through a break-up is many times all that can be done. There is a lot to just listening to a friend vent. Break-ups are hard and there is most likely going to be crying involved. This means offer a shoulder and a box of tissues and just listen. Listen to the good the bad and the ugly that has happened to your best opposite gender friend.
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Helping your friend will most likely not involve giving advice. Remember, your friend just broke-up with someone of your gender and may not want to hear what it is you would or would not have done. Advise given may cause some contention between you and your best opposite gender friend. Go ahead and answer any questions you are asked as you listen to your friend, but be cautious with your responses. When you are listening to a friend vent about a break-up, it helps to confirm what it is they are saying, at least until they get over the first hump of a break-up. They you can offer advise and have it better received when your friend is less miserable.
Listening is great and helps out so many times when you have a best opposite gender friend that has gone through a break-up. But there are times when you need to help the friend in physical ways too. This is mainly doing little odd jobs that the old boyfriend or girlfriend may have done for your friend. This means if your best opposite gender friend just broke up with a female, try doing the dishes. Your friend probably hates to do them and they most likely need to be done. If your best opposite gender friend just broke-up with a male, make sure the garbage is taken out.
Friends are friends and helping out when one breaks-up is important to the friendship. When the break-up has happened to your best opposite gender friend, then sometimes you may need to give them space. Time away from the opposite gender may be all the help you can give. But it is supportive to give your friend the space they may need after a break-up. Don't feel bad about giving your friend the time to heal, they will still have you as a friend and in time will be back to their normal great self.
When your best opposite gender friend is ready, you can get them some fun and not too serious dates to go on. This can help them to get back into the swing of things. It would be a great help for many friends if you were able to go on a double or group date with your best opposite gender friend to ease the transition. This is especially helpful if it was a long relationship they just broke-up from.
The important thing to remember when helping your best opposite gender friend through a break-up is to listen. Then help out where there might be a need in everyday little chores that your friend isn't used to doing since before the break-up. Offer advise only when directly asked and when your friend is ready, help them with the dating scene again.
