Where are you? How much PDA is too much depends on where you are. If you are with your friends and a bunch of married couples and you peck your spouse or significant other on the cheek or lips it is probably fine. But, if you are at an elementary school classroom and you are kissing, it is probably not appropriate. Holding hands is generally acceptable no matter where you are. If you are at your own wedding then kissing a lot, holding hands a lot, and things like that are going to be appropriate forms of affection. But doing that at someone else's wedding is entirely inappropriate. So, one of the things you have to consider when determining how much PDA is too much, is where you are.

What do others feel? Public display of affection has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with everyone else. It is what others feel about your affection that will determine how appropriate it is. Have you even been to a concert and had everyone around you making out? How did you feel? That is the point. If you took your kids to the pool and there was a teenage couple there all over each other, and making out, touching each other, etc. how would you feel? Consideration for others and how they feel about your displays of affection are another factor you need to look at when determining how much is too much. Any public place where families go, such as a recreation center pool is an inappropriate place for PDA other than holding hands. Why? It is inappropriate because there are families, small children, and people that may be uncomfortable with PDA. If you are at your own pool in the privacy of your back yard with only yourselves and a few close friends, then playing together, touching, kissing, etc. can be appropriate.

In general the rule is that in public you should limit your affection to hand holding, and small pecks on the cheek. Fondling, making out, and lots of touching, and of course sex should be reserved for the privacy of your own home, or personal spaces.

It is not hard to know how much PDA is too much, just ask yourself if you were the one watching it what would you be comfortable with? If your children were there what would you want the couple to limit their affection to? How you answer these questions should determine how you show affection in public. If in your family affection is a big part of a relationship, then go ahead and show your affection when it is just your family, but respect that not everyone feels the same way, and respect that not everyone wants to see you showing love to your significant other.

In some places any display of affection is inappropriate, such as in a church. So, consider your circumstances, company, and of course, consider how others are going to react to your affection. You can't be selfish about this, you have to be considerate.