Second- Look at yourself and your actions or reactions. Are you acting or reacting? Many of us react. We get easily provoked without any reason and react and lash out. That kills thinking because anger takes over. So, instead of reacting take actions. How do you do this? Start by listening. Then think. Count to 100 if you have to. Then ask questions to clarify what was said to make sure you are on the same page. Now, when you do this, you will hear feelings. You will hear reasons behind words, not just words. But, you will only hear this if you listen. So, ask what the other person means by what they say, then after you are satisfied with their answer, you can start with your suggestions. Never go to someone with an answer, or they will put up their defenses. Instead, avoid friction by giving suggestion. Do not fight with them, do not tell them where they are wrong, just bring up your concerns. For example, if your spouse wants to quit their job to follow a pipe dream, do not say that. Instead say, "Suppose you did quit your job, what would happen if I got sick and had to take time off?" Then suggest possible solutions.

Next- Watch your maturity level. If you want to avoid friction in a relationship you have to be able to act in a mature and intelligent way. This alone can avoid lot of friction. If you find it is impossible to deal with a person rationally and maturely at the moment, get away from them until you can. Do not try to win in an argument. That is why they are arguments, because no one wins.

Next- Avoid trying to make your point seen, and focus on making up. Too often friction in relationships is caused by someone on a quest to make sure you see it their way. Do not be that someone. Verbal duals give nothing but pain, and rarely result in someone seeing things your way. Life is too short to be spent in unnecessary arguments, so instead, agree to disagree, even if it is just to yourself that you make this agreement, and pass a peace offering. Analyze your relationships. Do you waste precious moments of your life in arguments and fights, when a simple apology and step in the forward direction could make such a huge difference? If you do so, you will realize your folly in future, and wish you had seen it sooner. So, avoid friction by becoming a peace maker. It sounds too simple, but that is the problem. People think it is too easy, and never try it.

You can have a friction free relationship if you understand motivators, act like a mature adult, and not dwell on things that will not change. Instead, seek peace and that is what you will find.