How to Create Lasting Bonds
In any relationship, romantic or otherwise, having lasting bonds is important. It is hard to It is hard to keep a relationship going and have it be healthy and fulfilling if permanent and strong bonds are not created. So, to create lasting bonds in whatever relationship you are in, do the following:
Start out right, not too fast, not too slow. Whether it is a romantic relationship or a friendship, if you try to rush things at an unnatural pace, your relationship will eventually fail, and this will because you did not create lasting bonds. Creating lasting bonds takes time and effort. You have to move forward with your relationships, but do so at an appropriate pace, not too fast, not too slow. This means do things as you feel them, do not do things because society, or tradition demand it of you.
|
|
Give a little. To create a lasting bond, you have to have a little of each person. You will not be able to create a bond with someone who pours their soul out to you and you give nothing in return. It is hard for many people to open up, as it creates vulnerability and the possibility to get hurt, but if you never open up, you will never be able to create the bonds that make relationships last.
Listen. Part of creating lasting bonds is being someone who is there for the other person. A shoulder to cry on, a person to lean on. This does not mean become their personal garbage dump that they dump on their problems on, but it does mean that you had better be able to listen when they have something to say or get off their chest. This is a two way street though, so expect them to listen when you have that same need.
Be there. If you want to create lasting bonds in a relationship, you can not be fickle. You have to spend time together, be the person they can call when they need a night out, or just someone to study with. You have to be around. It is hard to create lasting bonds when you do not talk or spend time together.
Show you care. You have to let someone know how much you care before they will be willing to trust you and create a bond with you. So, do the little things that count, remember important dates and things of significance in their lives. Do not have it be a one sided thing where they are supposed to remember your birthday and do something special, but you do not have to even think twice about theirs.
Stay in touch, no matter what. It is amazing what a simple email or phone call can do to brighten someone's day. The world is a lot smaller now, so there is no excuse for not staying in touch, and there is no way to have a lasting bond if you don't. So, send well wishes on a text message if you have to, and let people know when you are thinking about them.
Lasting bonds do not just form haphazardly, they take effort and work, you have to extend yourself some, open up, and trust others, and they have to do that with you. It is an investment of time, and of love. So, enjoy your relationships, and work toward making even the most insignificant ones better, and soon you will find that almost by accident you have formed lasting bonds of friendship and love.
